There are a lot of times where you think you’ll never get out. That you'll be stuck there forever. Playing tug of war with your mind and your heart, to make a decision that's best for you.

You've tried leaving before, what seems like a million and two times. And with every attempt comes another “I’m sorry, I promise to change, I love you” followed by your unwilling forgiveness and a fight about it 2 days later. Leaving a toxic person is fighting with yourself back and forth trying to find the way to say it without them lashing out at you. Trying to think of all the effects that will come out of it if you do finally leave. When you're constantly in fear of what they’ll say to get you to fall for their trap once again.

But then the day comes.

You finally get that boost of courage, that wave of confidence and that mindset where nothing is going to change your decision. So you end it. That’s when all the fighting really starts. They’re texting, they’re calling you, your mom, your brother, your best friend…they make attempt after attempt to talk you out of it. First, they apologize. Then, they’ll say they’ll change like every other time you’ve tried to end things. Then, they realize how serious you are and they get angry…calling you every name possible and using every ounce of energy in their being to bring you down so you think, “maybe I deserve them and all of this.”

But you don’t cave in.

The first few days are the hardest, the weeks become a little easier, months go by and you finally start to heal a little bit. Once you hit that year of them being out of your life, you feel as accomplished as someone who has just finished a long hard marathon. You’re happier, you’re healthier, you’re no longer under lock and key with no way of getting out.

You are finally free.

What’s even better after leaving a toxic person from your life, is finding someone after that is opposite of that toxic person and does everything in their power to forever prove that to you. Always checking to make sure you’re okay and is always there to support you.

It’s hard to leave a toxic person, especially when at one point in your lives, they were everything to you and they weren’t always horrible. But when you get the strength to leave and move forward, you feel invincible.

You have the strength, you have the support, your friends and family will love you more and you will start to feel like yourself again once it's all over. I know it's easier said than done, but when it is, your life can finally begin.