Trusting is not an easy feat. It can put us on edge and even cause us heartache.
The frustrating thing about trust is that it takes time. And for some, more time than others. Foundations must be laid and boundaries mustn't be crossed if someone wishes to gain another's trust.
However, trust can also lead to very fulfilling relationships and a less stressful lifestyle. When we trust, we grow, we experience the rare feelings of being able to spill our lives out to someone else, and we can experience how natural deep life chats can be because we don't feel pressure to keep our guards up.
The moment we trust, the moment we can fully become our true selves.
We've all had dosages of both trusting and not so trusting relationships in our lives, and we can all attest to how important trust can be to weeding out the ones who really have the capacity to make an impact on our lives.
However, have you ever considered the irony in how much we look to trust other people, yet we neglect to trust ourselves?
I'm not sure if I speak for a majority here or not, but I know personally that reflecting back on this concept, that in many instances, I have rarely trusted myself.
Let's put this into perspective for a second. When's the last time you were nervous or anxious about something? If you can't think of something within the last twenty-four hours, I know you're lying. You may have fretted over not getting somewhere on time, or that you weren't going to finish an assignment or heck you might have had a cow because you didn't water the plants.
We could eat ourselves alive with the way we always beat ourselves up over our shortcomings. I know I have.
When we make a conscious effort to trust ourselves that things will get done, that we will do our very best, and that things will work out in the end because we have full confidence in ourselves, that is the moment things will start to fall into place.
Kiss a good portion of your time nervous sweating goodbye, and say hello to a refreshing amount of time better appreciating yourself and seeing how talented and capable you really are.
While trusting isn't easy and often times doesn't seem fair, you can at least start by trusting yourself because you know yourself better than anyone else. Don't treat yourself like your own worst enemy, rather your most trusted confidant.
Next time you are finding yourself in any sort of bind, just repeat this mantra over and over in your head: "(insert your name here), trust yourself, trust yourself, trust yourself."
