What I Learned From A Love Song

What I Learned From A Love Song

But I promise you it's not about what love is.
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Before you read on, I have a confession to make.

For better or for worse and for all intents and purposes, I believe I am one of those creatures you would call a “hopeless romantic.” It is a rather incurable condition and for as long as I can remember I have had this disposition of seeing life through rose-tinted glasses. Sure, things aren’t always dandy, but this hopeless romantic still has hope. But that’s not the point.

The point is coming.

Like others of my romantic kind, I am a sucker for all things mushy. Rom-coms? Yep. "500 Days of Summer" is currently one of my favorites. Romance novels? Yeah. "One Day" by David Nicholls definitely pulled at my heart strings. Love poems? I remember reading “He Wished For the Clothes of Heaven” by W.B. Yeats for the first time and feeling vulnerably in awe. Heck, even reading about the Little Prince and his rose gave me “feels.”

But most of all, I’d say that love songs hit the sweet spot. Gosh, the wonders of a truly great love song are endless. I can’t even begin to explain the sensations felt or the emotions evoked. I don’t even know where to start. Maybe one day I’ll attempt to understand this phenomenon better and then write about it. If (when) it happens it shall be aptly called, “TFW you hear a really good love song”. Anyway, for now, it would suffice to say that it's an emotional roller-coaster ride of ups and downs with the occasional lefts and rights for about roughly four minutes. On repeat.

And by now you must be thinking “blergh this is another cheesy fluff piece” but worry not, dear reader, you’re only half right!

The point here is that throughout all my years of romantic fantasizing, fueled by an endless supply of love songs, I have learned a few things that actually do transcend the realm of romantic endeavors and I want to share one of them. A key to success, if I may so audaciously claim, to any human relationship is to make it more than just words. Words are powerful and rightly so, but when it boils down to it I think we would all prefer to have that friend who is more solid and dependable than just mere words.

So, how does one go about cultivating this behavior of being more than just words? Well, I can’t say I know how to go about it exactly myself. My understanding of it is still very much a work in progress. But, thus far, I can say beyond a reasonable doubt that the small things are important. These gestures do go far. The little things count. Check in with that friend who you know has been having a hard time. Don’t stop there. Check in with friends who aren't having a hard time. Call your parents. Leave a note that will brighten someone's day. Show appreciation when it's due, recognition when it is appropriate. A little bit of effort can and does go a long way.

The inquisitive reader at this point would now ask, “why the small things?” I would then answer that a complete justification would take too long. But with that being said, what's important to understand here is that engaging in activities that count as “the small things” demonstrates a level of emotional involvement that can conventionally be said to be desired by all (and by "all" I refer to those who share a quality that at this moment we shall call “humanness”).

I think the average human being is more emotionally complex than we have given it credit for. At least, I know I am emotionally complex. To even begin to understand this complexity would require a rather extensive treatise. On top of that, to push this further, I would like to believe that the plethora of conditions that form the “average human being” is in itself immensely complex and intricate, to the point that this idea of an essential “average human” is in itself quite a disservice.

But I digress. Returning to the point, my emotional needs are plenty and the list is fairly long even without going into what I emotionally desire. In my non-professional opinion, it is perfectly legitimate to recognize and embrace one’s emotions and, to a great extent, it is healthy to do so. Point being that emotions are important and engaging in the small things may be a good start on the path to emotional fulfillment.


And there you have it. That’s one of the things this romantic has learned from all those love songs with a little bit of reflection. And there’s much more that can be said about them. If anyone has a favorite love song to share, please send them my way. I am in need of another good one since I am still trying to figure out what love is. Before I end this, I'd like to add another thing. I've also learned that it’s never too late to say sorry.




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80 Nicki Minaj Lyrics Perfect For Instagram Captions

"Yo, you seen my last pic, go double-tap that for me."
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Nicki Minaj lets the world know about her amazing Instagram skills in Beyonce's "Flawless," when she raps "Instagram another flawless pic." Do you have a #Flawless Instagram picture but need a clever caption to go with it? The Queen of Rap has plenty of Insta-worthy song lyrics.

*(Some lyrics have been edited to keep this article "PG". Feel free to look up the real Nicki Minaj lyrics if you hate the radio edit.)


When you want to diss a hater:

    1. "You couldn't get a fan if it was hangin' from the ceilin."
    2. "I'm throwing shade like it's sunny."
    3. "I'm in my own lane, you ain't in my category."
    4. "These (girls) couldn’t test me even if their name was Pop Quiz."
    5. "Yo, people will love you and support you when it's beneficial. I'ma forgive, I won't forget, but I'ma dead the issue."
    6. "Not that I don't got good vision, but I don't see competition."
    7. "I’m Angelina, you Jennifer. Come on (girl), you see where Brad at."
    8. "I look like "yes" and you look like "no"."
    9. "But if you're ugly it's a no text zone."
    10. "If you are my rival, then that means you're suicidal."
    11. "Shout out to my haters, Sorry that you couldn't faze me."
    12. "Trash talk to 'em then I put 'em in a Hefty."
    13. "Like I mean I don't even know why you girls bother at this point. Like give up, it's me, I win, you lose."
    14. "All these haters mad because I'm so established."
    15. "Competition? why yes I would love some."

















When you want to tell people how awesome you are:

    16. "If I'm fake I ain't notice, cause my money ain't."
    17. "You can hate me, but why knock my hustle? I'ma be the queen, no matter how they shuffle."
    18. "Let me make this clear, I’m not difficult, I’m just ’bout my business."
    19. "I'm feelin' myself."
    20. "Excuse me honey, but nobody's in my lane."
    21. "Put me on a dollar cause I'm who they trust in."
    22. "I don’t say “Hi”, I say “Keys to the Benz.”"
    23. "I've been hot since flip phones" "Running this game for 5 years. Guess that's why my feet hurt."
    24. "Hotter than a middle eastern climate."
    25. "My money’s so tall that my Barbies gotta climb it."
    26. "No, I'm not lucky, I'm blessed, yes."
    27."I ain't gotta compete with a single soul."
    28. "'X' in the box, cause ain't nobody checking me."
    29."Excuse me, I'm sorry, I'm really such a lady."
    30. "Honestly I gotta stay as fly as I can be."














When you're hanging with your clique:

    31. "Cherish these nights, cherish these people. Life is a movie, but there will never be a sequel."
    32. "I’m with some hood girls lookin’ back at it."
    33. "We dope girls, we flawless. We the poster girls for all this."
    34. "Pretty gang, always keep them (boys) on geek."
    35. "The night is still young, and so are we!"
    36. "If you ain’t on the team, you playin’ for team D, ’Cause we A-listers, we paid sisters."
    37. "Pretty (girls) only could get in my posse."
    38. "Cause we the mean girls, y-yes we so fetch."
    39. "We fresh to death, down to the shoes."
    40. "Ain't at no wedding but all my girls cake tops."
    41. "Got a whole bunch of pretty gang in my clique."
    42. "Clap for the heavyweight champ, me, But I couldn't do it all alone, WE."
    43. "Put your drinks up, It's a celebration every time we link up."
    44. "I'm with some flawless (girls) because they be mobbin' pretty."


















When you're hanging with your significant other:

    45. "He tryna kick it like a ninja."
    46. "He could tell that I was wifey material."
    47. "Ayo, I just wanna be your first go to."
    48. "You got spark, you, you got spunk. You, you got something all the girls want."
    49. Find me in the dark, I'll be in the stars, Find me in your heart, I'm in need of your love."
    50. "They holler at me, but it's you, you."
    51. "I'm not living right, I’m not living if you’re not by my side."
    52. "I just wanna be somebody that can add to, your wife, be a friend, be a teacher and a fan, too."
    53. "I just wanna be your favorite."
    54. "He was the realest, I was the baddest, we was the illest."
    55. "I know you can save me and make me feel alive."
    56. "Yes I'll be your girl, forever your lady, You ain't ever gotta worry, I'm down for you baby."
    57. "Baby you my everything, You all I ever wanted."

















When you're single and loving it:

    58. "You could be the king, but watch the queen conquer!"
    59. "Thats why I'm crowned queen, and I ain't looking for the prom king."
    60. "I like independent, like July 4th."
    61. "I ain't never need a man, to take care of me."
    62. "He be like, "Yo, you so legendary", But he can tell just by my face he ain't getting any."
    63. "I am not Jasmine, I am Aladdin."
    64. "I don't even brake when I'm backing up, I'll swerve on a (boy) if he acting up."
    65. "So many boys in here where do I begin?"











When you're just living life:

    66. "I never worry, life is a journey. I just wanna enjoy the ride."
    67. "Tonight is the night that I'ma get twisted."
    68. "I’mma keep it movin', be classy and graceful."
    69. "So make sure the stars is what you aim for, make mistakes though."
    70. "And we gon' hangover the next day. But we will remember this day."
    71. "My only motto in my life is don't lose."
    72. "Take me, or leave me, I'll never be perfect. Believe me, I'm worth it."
    73. "I believe that life is a prize, but to live doesn't mean you're alive."
    74. "I wish that I could have this moment for life."
    75. "If I scream, if I cry, It's only 'cause I feel alive."
    76. "I can't believe it, it's so amazing. This club is heating, this party's blazing.""
    77. "It's so amazing, I figured out this world is ours for the taking."
    78. "I am not a girl that can ever be defined."
    79. "I got next, I'm gonna shine."
    80. "This is my moment I just feel so alive."















Cover Image Credit: Nicki Minaj

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20 Not-So-Typical Things To Pack For Freshman Year

You won't find these on your average college packing list.

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With only two weeks left to summer vacation, freshman all over will be doing last minute dorm shopping, doctors appointments, and of course, packing. While everyone may know of the basic college dorm essentials, like hangers and bedding, there are many not-so-typical essentials that every college student will need at one point or another during their freshman year. Here is a list of some things to think about packing before zipping up the final suitcase for move-in!

1. Frat shoes

For most freshmen, this is a pair of white converse that will definitely be dirty and destroyed by the end of the year. Word of advice: don't wear any shoes you actually care about to a frat... it never ends well.

2. Fans

Multiple fans are a must if you're living in a dorm with no AC. Invest now before it's too late and you're left waking up in a puddle of your own sweat. Gross, yes, but it will happen.

3. Air freshener

Nothing is worse than a smelly room, so stock up on little air fresheners to put in your room or cans of Febreze. Both get the job done and leave you with a fresh-smelling room, even during the hot summer days.

4. Phone Chargers

It's always helpful to have multiple phone chargers at school; one for your bedroom, one to keep in your backpack, and one extra in case one breaks or someone needs to borrow one. You can get them super cheap on Amazon, and I recommend one with a long cord so it can reach up to your lofted bed.

5. Emergen-C

It's inevitable that you will get sick at some point during your freshman year, but you can try to prevent this by stocking up on Emergen-C or any other vitamin C supplement. Take it if your roommate comes down with a cold or if you're going through sorority recruitment!

6. Dayquil/Nyquil

Again, it's inevitable so might as well make it as bearable as possible. Dayquil was such a game changer when I got sick freshman year and made it easier to go to class and be productive during the day while under the weather.

7. Rain Boots

Rain or snow, don't go! Just kidding, but rain boots definitely make walking to class in the rain a little easier, since staying in wet shoes all day isn't exactly pleasant.

8. Reusable water bottle

Save money and help the environment by using reusable water bottles. You can find cute Swell bottles, Hydro Flasks, or a college Camelback to always keep in your backpack.

9. Headphones

I never go anywhere without headphones and always have a pair in my backpack. These are a must when trying to focus at the library, working out at the gym, walking to class, or for watching Netflix late at night when your roommate is already asleep.

10. Booties

For those nights when you want to look a little dressier than normal, ditch the converse and wear plain black booties. They go with practically everything and amp up your look a bit.

11. Nike Shorts and Leggings

Let's be real. You aren't wearing jeans to class and you can never have too many pairs of leggings. Save some closet space by keeping most of your nice clothes home because realistically, you're wearing shorts and an over-sized t-shirt to class every day.

12. Dresses

Bring a nicer dress or two to have in case you get asked to a date function. Nothing is worse than having nothing to wear the day of the event so pack one or two along with a nice pair of heels or wedges.

13. Hawaiian shirt

There will come a time when you find yourself needing a Hawaiian shirt, camo, and '70s attire for themed parties. If you have any clothes that can fit into a theme or a decade, you might as well bring them because there will probably be a party for it.

14. Ears

Yes, that's right... ears. Mouse, cat, devil, you name it. Ears are essential for a last minute Halloween costume, so pack any that you have as well as old costumes to avoid spending money for each night of Halloweekend.

15. Good pair of sunglasses

Ray-Bans or Quay are my personal favorites, but definitely bring at least one good pair of sunglasses for walking to and from class or whenever outside.

16. Mini Steamer

Odds are you aren't folding your clothes right out of the drier or you're just stuffing them in a drawer. This means you are bound to get wrinkles in your clothes, so a steamer is the solution. The mini ones don't take up much space and are way easier to use than an iron.

17. Planner

At least try to stay on top of everything throughout the semester by using a planner to write things down. If you don't want to carry one around, you can write things down in your calendar or on stickies on your laptop.

18. Band-Aids

Never hurts to have some Band-Aids lying around, as well as some sort of makeshift First-Aid kit. Someone will always be asking for a bandage or Neosporin in your hall group chat, but you don't need to be that person.

19. Disinfecting Wipes

Dorm rooms can get messy quickly, but don't let them get dirty. Wipe down your room to get rid of dust and germs, especially when you or your roommate are sick. These also come in handy when cleaning shoes after a party or a tailgate.

20. Photos

Decorate your room with photos of family and friends from home. This helps especially if/when you're homesick and reminds you to stay in touch with them! I hung photos of some of my favorite memories from before college on the wall next to my bed, which always made me smile and remember good times from home!

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