When you were in high school, you had a girlfriend and she was the world. You never expected to be in any relationship very long, but against all odds you’ve been with her for over a year and your friends are very well aware that if you they want to hang with you then it goes without saying that your girlfriend will be attending. Your name cannot be mentioned without also recognizing your girlfriend; you two are one.
It’s the beginning of senior year and everything is great. It’s a daily occurrence of school, work and then to her house. Whether you are there or not, it’s mandatory to make a appearance and watch whatever is left of "Pretty Little Liars." It least once a week you eat with her and her friends because it’s a free extra chimichanga when you purchase the dinner.
As a guy, being surrounded by a bunch of gossiping girls kind of sucks, but she enjoys it so you do it for her. Oh yeah, Wednesday better be free because your going to church. You will eventually find church as something you need, you can thank her for that. Anyway, all of these things happen on a regular basis and you shouldn’t expect anything less.
It’s halfway through senior year and graduation is among the two of you. To her, everything is going to be peachy and sail smoothly through her college years. You two are going to get married (being married wouldn’t really differ your routine now). But you know yourself better than anyone else ( despite popular belief) and the thought of sorority girls and freedom interest you, but that’s a secret.
Graduation finally gets here and she thinks it’s a huge millstone, and it is. Eventually she post the graduation picture of you and her to social media with “we started and finished together” in the caption as every other high school girl would do.
That summer your routines stays the same, but a big change is about to happen; your going to college. Your kind of upset that your going to be a college student with a girlfriend and your friends think you're crazy for having one while in college and advise you to break up with her. They tell you to “ have fun,” or in my case “get wild, cuz” was the usual response when I mentioned my girlfriend and college in the same conversation.
Fast forward a couple of months and you’re in college. You two are still together, but obviously your visitation hours are drastically altered and she understands that. But here is the problem: your “study time” is not spent studying, but instead spending time with your newfound friends. It then becomes a habit to say your studying just to excuse yourself from visiting her. You find this easy to do because no one can argue with the importance of education.
As the weeks pass and days turn to nights, you come to the realization that you keep bailing on her to go do questionable rebellious things with your friends. She calls and calls, blows up your phone and then as a last resort, fills up your Snapchat. She is emotionally drained, but you feel no remorse; you’re here to party and these tears are holding you back from your partying potential.
Her friend’s start to dislike you and find you a negative impact on her life. So the day comes. You two split ways and life for you is great. You're partying and not having to instantly reply to messages or phone calls. There are no more arguments or questions as to why you’re not paying much attention to her and you f*cking love this. But as the party’s start to subside and the action is turning dormant, you find yourself in a pickle.
On usual days you would sleep at her house or dorm but for obvious reasons, that’s no longer possible. So what do you do? In my case, I had no idea. Its not like you can go ask your bro to cuddle and watch Netflix. You become a little weird inside and start to realize the damage that has been done and that the breakup only had temporary relief from the stressful world of being a boyfriend. You don’t know how to fix this problem that you created.
Eventually days go by, you flip your calendar and watch has the seasons occur. You’re still without a girlfriend, but it’s getting better every day. You start to realize what you’re really in college for and that’s to make a better future for yourself. What’s my advice? If you can keep a high school relationship and survive the transition, then keep it going as long as possible. Chances are that she is the only thing that keeps you from running astray.
