I've been in a long-distance relationship (LDR) with my boyfriend Jeremiah for a little over a year now. LDR's don't really make sense to people, and that's okay. It's hard. It can be frustrating and disappointing. However, I see an LDR as one of the strongest relationships there can be. Not only is your trust in another person strengthened: your individuality is as well. However, I won't be explaining the pos and cons of LDRs today. Instead, we're going to explore some questions that are often asked of those of us in LDRs.
1) "So, you're really doing long distance?"
*smiles but inwardly groans* "Yep, I am! Well, we are. Yes, the answer is yes."
This question doesn't really make sense to me. Yes, I'm really doing long distance. I'm not the type of person to do things halfway, especially a relationship. Actually, here's a little life tip: don't do a relationship halfway, no matter the situation. There's no reason you need to string someone along. If you're not feeling it anymore, end it. If you're starting to like someone else, end it. Okay, I'm off my soapbox. My point is, yes, I'm really doing long distance. You can't go into this with a halfway attitude.
2) "Aren't you afraid that he/she might be cheating on you?"
Do you pose this question to everyone you meet that's in a relationship of any kind? If you do, maybe you should stop. Like seriously, stop. Yes, I trust my boyfriend. He has never given me any reason to worry. However, I am a natural worrier. Don't plant doubt in someone's mind, even if it's unknowingly.
3) "Aren't you a little too young to be doing this?"
No, I really don't think so. This one's just a blow to the maturity. If there's a universal age for starting a long distance relationship, please, let me know.
4) "What are you going to do when it ends?"
Uh...it's not? This one kinda ties into the, "You're too young" thing. Jeremiah and I are in this for the long haul. Call us blindly optimistic, call us children, call us whatever you want to. We're sticking together through it all.
5) "Do you think it's worth it?"
The answer to this one's plain and simple. Yes. I really, really do.
If you know someone in a long distance relationship, think before you ask a question. It might come across the wrong way, even if you're simply being curious. It's hard to be in an LDR, but it makes it easier knowing you have the support of your friends and family.
