Te amo. Je t'aime. Ich liebe dich. Ya tebya liubliu. S'agapo. Ta gra agam ort. Ani ohevet otcha. Ik hou van jou. I love you.
There are so many ways to say "I love you" to someone just pick any language of the world and you will already have billions of ways to say it. However, at least in the English language, the word "love" can mean so many different things. One can love ice cream, but also love their mom at the same time. This does not mean that a mother is on the same playing field as ice cream in the terms of affection, but it's just how the English language works.
But did you know that despite there being millions of ways to physically say "I love you" to someone there is actually a thing called a love language? If you didn't you know now.
There are five love languages as a man by the name of Dr. Gary Chapman states and they go as follows:
1. Words of Affirmation
Now despite the fact that this love language goes against what I just said by the title of it, just hear me out. People who speak this love language hold value in hearing things like "I love you", but this love language goes beyond than just saying those three words all the time to those who speak this language. People who speak this love language hold value in compliments, words of encouragement and so on. Do not assume people who speak this love language are simply "fishing for compliments". It's just simply how their brain processes love. People who speak this language may find themselves being cut deeply by negative comments and may not be so easy to forgive after one has been made.
2. Quality Time
When someone speaks this love language they want your undivided attention. They don't want to hang out with you while you scroll through your phone during the entire dinner. Being distracted, not listening or failure to keep plans may hinder relationships with people who speak this language. Unlike words of affirmation, the words you spew out does not mean as much to them as being your main focus.
3. Receiving Gifts
Now, do not assume that those who speak this love language are just materialistic. For people who speak this love language feel the most loved when they receive something physical. A gift that is thoughtful means the world to them. Even if it is a leaf you picked up and you thought it looked like their dog's face was found in the pattern.
4. Acts of Service
By the sound of the language, this one seems the most virtuous. For these people, actions speak way louder than words. Things like running an errand for them, doing the dishes, and favors go a long way for these people. Repeated broken promises are probably one of the most hurtful things you can do to those who speak this language.
5. Physical Touch
People who speak this love language feel the safest and most secure with re-affirming physical contact by a loved one. Now, this doesn't mean they're very sexual beings who are always looking for things to do in the bedroom. Things like a hug, a kiss, a hand-hold can go a long way for these people. And do not assume these people are an over the top PDA'er.
You may have been reading those descriptions and found yourself finding the truth about yourself in each type of love language - or not. Just like any other thing in psychology, love languages are on a scale from which one is the most predominant to which one is not as predominant (or even prevalent), while the rest fall in-between.
Knowing your own love language helps you learn how to communicate to others what you need from them in a relationship- romantic or not. Knowing other people's love languages helps you understand what they need in order for them to know you appreciate them. Again, in both romantic and non-romantic relationships.
For example, let's say your friend is upset and their love language is gifts, but your love language is quality time. You may be inclined to rush on over to their house to spend the entire day with them one on one. However, you may actually end-up frustrating the person rather than helping. In reality, the best way to show that you are there for them through the difficult time is running to the store and grabbing their favorite food or getting them a drink from their favorite coffee shop. Or getting them a stuffed animal. The opportunities are endless. You just have to make sure you speak their love language as opposed to your own.
As you can assume, knowing your partners - or future partners - love language is very important for the same reasons and then on.
If you would like to know what your love language is or would like to see if your love language has changed clink the link here to take the love languages test.