Often love or lust blinds us in relationships. We are unable to see that something isn’t healthy for us because we want something to work out so badly. However, in most cases, there are several red flags which should tell you automatically to get out of that relationship ASAP because it’s NOT what you need and in most cases, they will do more harm than good.

1.They want to keep you a secret.

If someone doesn’t want to introduce you to their family or friends this is a major no-no. How much do they really care about you if they don’t want to introduce you to the closest people in their lives?

2.They get you involved in bad things.

You never used to smoke and drink and now that your boyfriend does suddenly it becomes your never favorite hobby????

3.They are a little too flirty a little too often.

They can’t seem to cool down the flirting with other people even when you are in the same room. They may want an “open relationship” or choose to avoid commitment at any cost. Everyone loves a “player” right? What do they do when you aren’t there?

4.They don’t like to spend time/energy/money on you. EXCUSES. EXCUSES.

You are at the bottom of their priority list. There is always a reason or an excuse for why they can’t or don’t want to.

5.They don’t want to open up about their lives.

They aren’t interested in how you feel or how your day was. They also don’t want to talk about anything remotely personal. They are only into you for one reason clearly.

6.They don’t have their life together.

They have no goals or aspirations. They can barely pick you up on time.

7.They care more about physical appearance.

They are obsessed with how they look and also make comments about your appearance. If you don’t look perfect why would they want to be around you? I’m here to tell you SHALLOW is not SEXY.

8.They treat other people badly.

This person may treat you just fine, but if they can’t get along with others that’s an automatic show of that person's character.

9.They criticize you constantly.

They always notice what you do wrong. They belittle you and make you feel inferior to them.

10.Their social media is full of other guys or girls who they used to date and/or risqué pictures.

They must be realllly into you if they feel the need to talk and look at other guys/girls. Sure sounds like a keeper.

Many people are drawn to “bad” but I am here to tell you to RUN the other way as fast as possible. People who exhibit these red flags will only tear apart your self-confidence and make you completely lose yourself in the process. If its “real” love that person will have no issue fighting for you and making you feel like the bomb person you are. Listen to your gut and remember words mean nothing if action isn’t there to follow it through. It’s better to be alone than with someone who doesn’t appreciate or value you. Don’t waste your time and give second chances to people who don’t deserve it. BE PICKY! VALUE YOURSELF! DON’T SETTLE!