What have we come to as a society, to where we feel the need to waste our time so much? Specifically, I'm talking about the world of dating. I've noticed that many people, girls in particular, put pressures on themselves to commit to a relationship that they don't actually want to be in. Whether it's because they're afraid of hurting other people or because they doubt their own judgement, this habit is detrimental to both the boys and girls of our generation because, put simply, it perpetuates a culture of lying. Sure, it could be seen as lying for a "good cause", since the fear of harming others comes from a good place. In general, it really seems like Generation Z kids are compassionate to a fault. It's not our responsibility to try and hide or change someone else's reality. To commit to a relationship that you don't want to actually be in is only going to showcase your lack of respect towards that other person. People are stronger than they make themselves out to be. By the time you've finished reading this article, I hope you get inspired enough to get your ability to say no back again.

First, let's explore why women might feel the need to commit to a person that they're not very invested in. One thing that needs to be mentioned before I go into further detail is that it's unfair to think that women are only saying yes because it's in their best interest to hurt men. To me, it seems like a lot of modern women second-guess themselves, especially in the dating world. It should also be mentioned that unfortunately, some men still have difficulty taking no for an answer. For example, this whole concept of Nice Guys can cause many women to then worry if their taste in men is fundamentally flawed. This causes them to then ignore their feelings and intuition about men. It's yet another way of making women doubt themselves, not to mention that it's essentially telling women that they can't say no. This is a serious issue and can't be made a habit because it's detrimental for women and men alike.

Also, telling women to "just give him a chance" is basically telling them to ignore the lessons they've learned from their previous relationships. Once again, women are indirectly being told to doubt themselves. If you don't want to date someone because you think about your terrible ex whenever you're around him, then there's probably a reason for that. Our brain is very good at recognizing small patterns in other people's behavior. You most likely aren't just putting up a shell because you're a damsel in distress, broken by your ex. Instead, you're a powerful and wise woman, and it's perfectly normal for you to be more selective after you've gotten more experience and more insight into which sorts of men you're into. So don't give him a chance when your gut feeling thinks otherwise.

It's not uncommon for people to question their taste in partners, but you can't change your own preferences by forcing yourself to date men that you don't even feel any attraction toward. We need to quit telling women to "give him a chance" and start encouraging women to trust their own judgement in people. We need to help encourage our female friends to say no when they don't want to do something.