At what age does one discover who they are? I mean, when does one truly find themselves?
In asking this question, I get confused with the meaning of “finding yourself." Is everyone lost in the world and end up finding who they are at some point in their lifetime?
As we transition from childhood to our teenage years, we try to discover our likes and dislikes. We find out what is most important to us and, at times, we feel like we have the world figured out. Then we graduate high school.
As a college student and someone in her early 20s, I believe I am at the stage of trying to find myself. There are many decisions I have to make that ultimately decide my fate.
There are questions about marriage and children. Do I need to get married right now and start having kids while I am young? Do I solely focus on my education first? After I complete my studies, does marriage or a career come first? Can I be married with kids, complete my studies and have a career? Can I eat my cake and have it too?
What about traveling? It has been my lifelong dream to visit and even live in places like South Korea, Paris, and Dubai.
In all that I want to do and accomplish both professionally and personally, the struggle lies in choosing what comes first. This is a stage that many have been in, and each individual has their own way of dealing with the situation. You can either ignore your goals or face the challenges life has to offer. We do not know where our journey will end, but we must keep pushing forth. We should not be striving to keep up with others, but rather do that which we enjoy the most. Do not let the opinions, suggestions or orders of others decide what you do with your life.
Marriage or career first? Let it be your choice!
Completing your studies before having children? Let it be your choice!
Settling down with a family instead of traveling? Let it be your choice!
I am not suggesting that everyone does not have your best interest at heart; I am just saying that what may have worked for another might not work for you.
Think of others' suggestions like an advertisement for acne product that promises to give you clear skin in 30 days, but at the bottom of the screen in tiny print, it says “results may vary."
I take life day by day. I do the things I enjoy most, and I know whatever decision I make, it can either be a lesson or a blessing. I realize I am different from everyone else, simply because I am myself. I do not need to aspire to have the life of another. Think of your self-discovery journey as writing your own life story. Would you give someone else the pen?
