"If you are waiting for God to deliver you out a situation, realize other hearts are involved and He is working on those too"
I am 20 years old and I can honestly say my life is a hot mess. I used to spend hours worrying about how messy life can be, that I need to always be organized, have everything together and be good at everything I do. Lets all laugh together. What type of people completely have their lives together at 25, even 30 sometimes. For the people that do, good for you-- I mean seriously congrats, but for the rest of us, realize its okay to be a mess, as long your mess gets you where you want to go.
I believe that every single experience you have, you learn something about yourself and you grow more into the person you want to be. Sometimes it takes you to rock bottom, crying alone in your room with a bottle of wine, to realize who and what you want to be. Its okay to hit rock bottom, but the important thing is-- don't stay there. Its okay to cry, bawl your freaking eyes out, but when you are done, get over it, move on- make the decision to never cry about the same thing ever again.
The important thing is realizing your life is a mess and deciding not to stay there. You have to decide you dont want to live like that your entire life, but its okay to live like that for awhile, cause sometimes the chaos is actually what you need to bring order to your life.
You need to stop comparing your life to everyone else's. Some people may find the love of their life when they are 18, others won't until they are 45. Some will graduate college in 4 years flat, and some may take 10 years and end up with their PhD. Some people will spend college drunk at the bar, while other spend their college years in bed with cookie dough and a chick-flick. You may fall into your dream job, while others have to climb a long ladder to get there. You can't compare your life to others because nothing about you're circumstances are the same, you may have the same destination, but the journey will never be the same.
While you shouldn't compare your life to others, you do need to consider how other people fit into your puzzle. Sometimes you have to look around at everyone's lives and see how the changes you want can affect them, they may be getting prepared for the same change you are, just may not be simultaneously. You're changes may not be better for everyone just yet, God has to set up their plan too. Its one giant puzzle, and at times, you have to put together certain pieces before you can finish the puzzle.
A messy life means your busy organizing-- if your life is a mess, that means your in the middle of getting it together. The strongest people come out of the biggest storms. And you dont always have to be moving forward, somethings will set you back but you can't stay there, eventually you have to use the things pulling you back, to launch you forward. The important thing is to look at every situation you are in- good or bad- and grow from it. Everything in life is a learning experience to teach you how to become the person you really want to be.
The most important thing is to never stop putting in the work that you want to succeed. If you want something bad enough you will work hard to get there- and to never give up on yourself and those dreams. Dont give up on your dreams because the time they will take to complete, for the time will pass anyways.
Come to the realization that life will always be messy, no matter how old you are. Learn to accept the mess and keep growing and moving forward, because one day the growth will land you right where you have always wanted to be. Nobody is perfect, so dont compare your life to others, we are all in different time frames, working towards different goals. Just be patient, dont try to rush things that need time to grow.
