I'm tired of guys leaving a perfectly great and healthy girl because "they feel like another girl needs him more than she does." OK, and? Is your ego so big that you can't handle the thought of a girl who won't fall to pieces if you threaten to leave her? I'm extremely independent. Is it really such a bad thing that I know life will go on whether you choose to be with me or not?
I realize that might make me sound a tad bit heartless, but I promise that's not the case. There was an instance where I was actually dating a guy and he wanted to go back to his ex because her problems were "more severe and intense than mine." That's not fair. Everyone has their demons, and everyone needs to learn how to handle those demons on their own instead of handing their problems off to other people to deal with them. I'm not sorry that I'm not needy enough. I will never tell a man that I need him. I might want him more than I've ever wanted anyone or anything in my life, but I still won't need him. My life would still go on if he were to choose to leave. I might be ridiculously sad about it for a few months, or even years, but I have friends and family who are there to support me, so I know that I will be OK through whatever life throws at me.
And may I just point out some of the advantages of dating an independent woman? We don't care when you wanna have guys' night, because we need alone time and time with our girls, too. We encourage you to have a life of your own, whether that might be your work, your passion, or anything else that isn't necessarily a shared interest, but matters to you. We'd never ask you to give any of that up because we're the same way.
We won't come to you crying about every little thing. We might ask your opinion on situations here and there, but we know how to take care of things on our own without depending on someone else. We're super adventurous. Most of us get crazy excited at the thought of seeing the world, and we'd like it if you came along with us. But if you don't want to, that's fine, too, because most of us also wouldn't mind traveling parts of the world alone. What a great time to do a little soul searching! We won't sit around by the phone and wait for you to call. We have our own lives. We get excited every time we see your name on our phones, but we don't sit around and wonder when the next time we're gonna get a text from you will be.
Just because we're self-sufficient doesn’t mean we're hard-hearted or cold. it just means that we're not afraid to step away from anything that is negative for us. But remember this; if you ever break our heart or hurt us, we will not come running back to you. An independent woman would never sacrifice her self-respect. She is the kind who will start from scratch and build herself all over again.
Do you really want someone else who completely depends on you and doesn't know who they are without you? That sounds more like a parent/child relationship than a healthy adult relationship to me. Maybe it's just because I am so independent, but I'd like my partner to be confident in who he is as a person before I even enter the picture. Seriously, there's nothing worse than hearing, "I don't know who I am without you." Your life shouldn't be that invested in another person. You never know what choices they'll make or where life could take you. You create your own happiness. Your partner should complement you, not complete you. As my favorite poet Rupi Kaur says, "you must want to spend the rest of your life with yourself first."
