When a person with depression wakes up in the morning on a bad day, they can make a million excuses why they can't get out of bed. They can come up with every reason under the sun why they can't go to work, why they can't go to class, why they can't go do a project they are supposed to do, why they can't go officiate sports they are expected to be at, or why they can't socialize with friends. Their story is serious, and it won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
Think about it. When you see magazines at the newsstand, what do you typically see? You will see a story about dyslexia. You will see a story about anorexia. You will see a story about politics. You will see a story about religion. You will see a story about "The Walking Dead."
You will see a story about almosteverything. You won't see a story about depression. You won't see a story about suicide. You won't see a story about people fighting for their lives or not being able to leave the house. People don't want to hear about someone's bad day. They don't want to read about someone's horrible life. They don't want to know about someone considering suicide.
They don't want to think about someone wanting to die. They don't want to know about any of it. It's a serious story. It's all in their head. It's a problem that so many people face. It's a story that so many people want to tell. Depression is real. Anxiety is real. Their story is true. Their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
When the day starts, a person hears their alarm go off. They make the first attempt to roll out of bed and get started with their day, and their heart fills with dread. Their head fills with emotional thoughts. They feel the depression creeping over them. They try to fight it, and they lose the battle. They crawl back into bed. They call into work. They call or text someone and make up an excuse why they can't do something they have promised they can do. Some days they aren't even tired, they just don't want to face the world. Their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
You could be sitting right next to someone that you work with right now and never know that they are fighting depression. You could be standing right next to a person at a concert singing the lyrics to a song and not realize that they are battling depression. Maybe the person that is battling depression is you. And the person standing next to you doesn't even realize what you are going through. The story is real. It is sad. Many times it turns tragic. Their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
A person doesn't deal with depression just once a day. Some days a person doesn't deal with it at all; they could go a week or even a month without any symptoms. And then it hits. It hits like a ton of bricks. It makes the person feel like they've been run over by a dump truck. It makes the person feel like the world is crashing down on them. They see themselves in the mirror as they walk by. They don't resemble the person they once were. Their story isn't something they tell the neighbors or talk to the friends about at the bar. Their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
When you walk by a coworker, you have no idea if they have depression or not. You wouldn't have a clue how bad their day is going if they have a smile on their face. You may not realize they are standing beside you, carrying on what seems to be a normal conversation, and they are dying inside. They have a story to tell. They desperately want to share it with someone.
They want support. They want to know they are cared about. They want to know someone loves them. They want to know they matter. Their story is serious. It is so serious that on a terribly bad day, it could even put them in the hospital. It could get them medicated to the point they walk, talk and behave like a zombie. Their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
Depression is a story that people could talk about today, tomorrow, next week or next year. They could fill hundreds if not thousands of pages of blogs about the story. They could fill hundreds if not thousands of internet pages and websites with their stories. They could visit chat rooms and talk for hours about what their struggle is like. They could write books. They could make movies. They could talk about it around the world. Their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
When you run into someone that suffers from bipolar syndrome, depression, anxiety attacks, or other emotional imbalances, the first thing you want to tell them is that it's all in their head. They should see a doctor. They can get medication for their problem. They can talk to a therapist. They can pay someone to listen to their story. They can tell their story to everyone that will listen. And their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
Before you judge someone, criticize someone, look at someone, or think you really know someone, take a moment and ask them how they are doing. Ask them to tell you their story. Ask them how they are feeling. Ask them if they have a story. Chances are, you will see someone that does have a story. And their story won't make the cover of "Time Magazine."
The author of this article experiences depression first-hand. The person behind this computer knows what it's like to not want to get out of bed, to go to work, to deal with doctors appointments, medications, walking around like a zombie, and sleeping 14 hours at a time. The author of this article knows from experience what it's like to have a story.
The author knows what it's like to no longer have a family, or have connections with people that were once an integral part of their life. There is a story to tell, but as we all know, it's a story that most people don't want to hear. It's depressing. It's sad. It's something that would put someone normal into a funk. However, it's a similar story that so many hundreds, thousands, and even millions of people deal with every day.
Our story won't ever make the cover of "Time" Magazine.