This Season's Bachelor Has More Red Flags Than Roses

This Season's Bachelor Has More Red Flags Than Roses

The moment viewers have been waiting for all season may have more red flags than romantic implications.


No matter how much people talk about the problems with it, "The Bachelor" has become a cultural phenomenon. With each rose, America falls more and more in love with the dating show. When it comes to the episode that aired early last week, here's one thing that everyone is talking about, but no one is actually discussing.

Colton Underwood, the eligible bachelor, jumped a fence.

The moment that fans were waiting for finally happened, but the context of that moment showcased behavior that needs to be addressed. After one of the final three women, Cassie, explained that she didn't feel that being with Colton at that moment was the right choice, Colton responded by hoisting giant red flags.

During the conversation, he gaslighted Cassie by making her feel ridiculous for not being ready to continue the relationship at that moment. He states, "You're overthinking everything." This minimizes her concerns and dismisses that she doesn't feel that the relationship is right. He then continues by saying, "I don't know where your doubts are coming from."

Colton totally ignored when she explained where her doubts were derived from, which she delved into in the previous conversation. She was concerned because her father didn't give his blessing to Colton. Interestingly, Colton knew about this but didn't tell Cassie until she directly asked him about it. He then continues by saying that there's no pressure. He follows this up by putting pressure on her to stay.

The moments leading up to the much-anticipated fence jump also contributes to the string of red flags. When Cassie leaves, Colton rushes to his room, which is where he displays his last appropriate reaction of the night. As he leaves the room, he begins to throw a temper tantrum. Colton proceeds to hit one of the cameras, knock a radio off of a ledge, then finally jump the fence.

The amount of red flags that Colton shows within this twenty-minute segment is completely ignored in the next episode. In the "Women Tell All" special, everyone treats this as a normal way to deal with someone that you love. In fact, they treat this reaction as romantic frustration playing out.

By treating this as the romantic ideal, "The Bachelor" is taking these red flags and idolizing them. With the popularity of the show, this creates a dangerous example of love for younger generations. Society needs to address the problem presented by Colton and explain to younger viewers that this isn't what they should look for in their own relationships. If this behavior continues to be romanticized, the final "final rose tonight" of the season may result in a relationship of manipulation and pain.

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6 Places in New York City Every "Friends" Fan Needs To Visit

Grab a cup of coffee at Central Park.

As a "Friends" fanatic myself, I often wonder about the places in New York City featured in the various episodes and whether I could actually visit them. Most of them are fictional or no longer exist, but there are a few places you can go to reminisce about your favorite "Friends" moments. So, here are six places in New York City you definitely need to visit as a "Friends" fan.

1. The Apartment Building, Obviously

The building used for the exterior shot of the apartments in "Friends" is real and is located at 90 Bedford Street at the corner of Grove Street in Greenwich Village. It's an obvious must-see.

2. The Pulitzer Fountain

This is the fountain that the friends danced around in for the iconic theme song, and it's located right in Central Park.

3. Bloomingdale's

This is the department where Rachel worked before she moved on to Ralph Lauren, where she met Joshua, and where she started her career in fashion.

4. The Plaza Hotel

This is where Monica and Chandler celebrated their engagement in "The One WIth Monica's Thunder," and is actually really gorgeous.

5. The Central Perk Replica

While Central Perk isn't a real coffee shop, a pop-up replica opened up in 2014 on Lafayette Street and it's definitely a must-visit.

6. Chandler's Office

The fictional Chandler works in the real Solow Building, located on West 57th street.

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5 TV Shows To Binge Watch When You Aren't Stressing About College

My top five shows to binge watch as a college student.


Netflix, Amazon Prime, and Hulu are a college students best friend. These are my top 5 shows you should watch while hanging out in your dorm room.

1. "The Office"


"The Office" is definitely an easy show to binge. Its dry humor and sarcasm can be hard to grasp at first, but eventually, you'll start chuckling at everything Michael says. The characters are all different, so you'll probably be able to relate to them in your own way. Not only is it a comedy, but it also adds in some romance and drama. The things that Dwight, Jim, Pam, and the others do will make you think that working at a paper company really isn't too bad. I don't want to spoil anything for you, so you'll just have to watch it on your own. (That's what she said.)

2. "Sex and the City"


"Sex and the City" is a total classic. I remember when I was younger I heard about the show, but there was no way I was going to watch it. When I got to college I realized there was a lot about the world I hadn't learned. I started watching this show and was instantly hooked. If you love Manhattan and the hustle and bustle of the city, you will fall in love with the show. Carrie Bradshaw and her three best friends show the true meaning of "girl power" as they take on life and love together in the big city.

3. "Gilmore Girls"


Another classic, "Gilmore Girls," is an amazing show to watch especially if you're leaving your mom for college. Rory and her mother Lorelai are best friends. It reminded me of my own mother and I, so I ended up watching all seven seasons in one month. It seemed to be so innocent at first, but it is more drama filled than expected. It's interesting to watch her go through high school, just like I did, and experience everything a normal teen would. And who wouldn't want to watch Melissa McCarthy every episode? Of course, I won't spoil this for anyone either, but I will always be #TeamLogan.

4. "The Flash"


I'm typically not into superhero movies or shows, but I was hooked to "The Flash." Rather than being just a basic hero who wins everything and gets the girl, Barry (The Flash) overcomes some pretty intense things throughout his life. After every season I thought the show was going to end, but they came up with so many twists. There was never a dull moment in the show, and you'll learn that not everything is as it seems. There's tragedy, romance, comedy, and a whole lot of drama. What else could you ask for in a show?

5. "Atypical"

"Atypical" is a very easy show to binge. It's honestly very fascinating and has a huge amount of drama. For Sam, life seems to be harder until he finds out that everyone's life is just as hard as his. Their family is different than most, and it taught me a lot of lessons to be a better person. You can finish one whole season in just one night with a couple of people. If you ever need a show to just watch one night with your friends, this is it.

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