I believe one of the hardest decisions in life is deciding between letting go and hanging on. Letting go allows a new adventure to happen, a new start but hanging on to the comfort zone, the place you call home is just as ideal. My roommates have told me I give the best relationship advice so if you are struggling with whether or not to let go or hold on, this is for you.
The best advice I can tell anyone is to follow your heart. Your heart will lead you in the best direction for you; it knows what you need, want and should have. Your heart will allow people into your life you never knew would come along, but also let those who shouldn't be in as well, but first and foremost, that is okay. You will learn which people are meant to be in your life forever and those who are only meant to pass on through. It sucks to believe someone should be in your life forever but realize they are only meant to be in for one chapter of your life. Your heart will get broken without a doubt, but the magnificent aspect of the heart is it knows how to put itself back together.
Your heart will never be the same, the bonds will be put back together, but they won't fit the same. The heart will fill in the gaps that are broken, new bonds are forming, the cracks are being closed and your heart will become stronger.
If you are struggling to determine whether you should let go or hold on, lay it all out there. Make a pros and cons list.
Holding on allows the comfort zone to be the same, it allows home to remain home. But if you have been hurt before, possibly multiple times, do you really want to hold onto something that has once shattered your world? If you believe the pros outweigh the cons, then yes hold on. If you believe what was the problem can be fixed, yes hold on. If you believe you can return to the happiness you were before and exceed that happiness, hold on. But if you can't see anything getting better, you are only delaying the inevitable and you are only "tolerating" then maybe it is best to let go.
Pillow Thoughts - Courtney Peppernell
You remind me of home,
of all the simple things in life,
of light and love and the reasons I am not alone.
You remind me of hope,
of the sea and the sky,
every hug and every kiss from your lips to your thighs.
I have flown around the world and met no one like you
because you are all the things I keep coming back to.
Letting go allows starting the new beginning, a new chapter, another story. This does not mean you have forgotten where you came from, how the past has impacted your life or leaving everything behind. To me, letting go is one of the strongest, hardest things a person can do. Letting go is allowing you to leave what has hurt you and pursue what can make you happiest. You have accepted you deserve more, need more and want more than life is giving you; which is incredibly hard to come to terms with. If you believe there are better options out there for you, yes let go. If you believe you could be happier than you are now, yes let go. If you believe you need more, let go. But if you know this is your forever and only a bump in the road, then maybe it is best to hold on.
Milk and Honey - Rupi Kaur
don't mistake
salt for sugar
if he wants to
be with you
he will
it's that simple
Neither of these options are easy but figure out what is best for you. You are never alone and there are plenty of people to help you. Right now, this may feel like the biggest decision of your life; you may feel lost, but just know everything works out in the end. Everything that has happened and will happen is meant to be. But also know, if you made one decision and you soon realize you made a mistake, try a different route. There are always options to choose from, so you are never stuck. You decide your life. You decide what is best for you so make a choice and go with it.
To conclude, follow your heart, it knows what is best for you. Pick yourself up when you need it, but you will also have those help pick you up. Let go of what hurts you and find your happiness or hold on to what makes you feel at home and become happier. The ball is in your court; you just have to make the decision and move forward.
