Why Instagram Is Not Real Life

Why Instagram Is Not Real Life

It's all about showing off the best moments while ignoring the worst.
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In 2016, 32% of adults and 52% of teens ages 13-17 used Instagram daily. If you wanted to get technical, you could say Instagram is an online photo-sharing site like any other form of social media -- which it is, but let's be honest. If anything, it's a highlights reel and life resume that showcases the best parts of yourself while ignoring the undesirable. Take a moment to reflect on the lengths and measures you (or someone you know) take to create the "perfect" IG persona and consider this:

Imagine a typical "Insta-famous" account you follow (or maybe even your best friend) and you'll see flashy jewelry, an expensive wardrobe, make-up you'd have to sell an arm for, flawless selfies, extravagant food and drinks, a dream-come-true boyfriend, and a slammin' body. You spend way too much time idolizing them and envy their "perfect" life. They have it all. You wish you had their clothes, their looks, their flat stomach. You wish you had a life as fascinating and care-free as theirs. It takes stabs at your self-esteem. You doubt yourself. The endless comparisons steal the confidence and self-worth from under your nose. It may seem as if these people have it all, but they don't. Instagram is not real life.

That adorable and candid bikini picture? Not so candid, and probably took 200 shots to get one "good enough" for IG.

That picture showing off her chiseled stomach? She may not have eaten that day so she could look more slim.

That picture of the 3 dozen roses her boyfriend sent her "just because" he wanted? He got caught in a huge lie and she's questioning their future.

We want to present our best self, I get it. No one wants to post about crying themselves to sleep, their endless depression, or their parents' ugly divorce. Just because it's not being showcased and talked about, doesn't mean it's not happening.

On Instagram, self-love and self-worth come from the "likes" of others, and success is measured and determined by a follower count. We've been met with an obsession for approval and validation, while lacking transparency and authenticity. We are pressured to work angles, pose perfectly, use filters, crop away our insecurities, and Photoshop our flaws to create a reality that ceases to exist.

So just remember, that girl you envy on social media...

...fights with her best friend and boyfriend, too.

...cries about stupid and insignificant things, too.

...eats too much ice cream and peanut butter, too.

...feels insecure about her body, too.

...battles with anxiety and depression, too.

Their online-self is not the same as their everyday self. Learn the difference. Find the disconnect. Discover your true self -- and don't be ashamed or afraid to make it who you are online, too.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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4 Common Dreams And Why You Might Be Having Them

From falling off a skyscraper to presenting your valedictorian speech naked.

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Do you ever wake up in cold sweats in the middle of the night and think to yourself, "OK brain what was that about?" You might think it was because you watched too many "Games of Thrones" before bed, or that you drank coffee too late in the day. However, it just might be your subconscious trying to tell you something.

Your subconscious literally has a mind of its own, and it likes to present itself while you're in a deep sleep.

1.  The one where you fall to your death.

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I feel like everyone has experienced this type of dream at least once in their life. The one where you are either pushed off or fall from a great height only to be jolted out of your sleep as soon as you hit the ground.

According to verywellmind.com, this highly common dream has a myth that is if you hit the ground in your dream, then you will die in real life, which isn't the case at all. Even better, this dream just means that your life isn't doing too hot right now, and you most likely need to contemplate a recent decision or change direction in your life somehow.

This dream symbolizes fear of some sort, and it is just your brain's way of letting you know while you sleep.

2. The one where you're naked in public.

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Ah, yes, you are the star of the show and everyone's eyes are on you and then an eruption of laughter starts to fill the auditorium and you look down to see that you are indeed not wearing your graduation gown, but your birthday suit instead

Ever have a dream similar to that? This could mean that you are feeling down on yourself and that you think that you have to live up to a certain standard without revealing any imperfections.

Well, newsflash, no one is perfect, so you can stop having the naked in public dreams now.

3. The one where you're getting chased.

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You're running and running and running, and it seems like a never-ending workout of getting away from whatever is trying to grab you in your dream. You wake up with a higher heart rate than usual to see that you are in fact, not being chased at all. This could mean that you are not taking action to a problem in your life, and you are taking the easy way out by just avoiding it.

4. The one where you lose all your teeth.

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I think this is the worst dream you can have. Have you ever had a dream where you lose your teeth one by one until all that is left is your pink gums? I get chills just thinking about this. This dream could mean that you have an insecurity about your appearance. This could also mean that you are worried about something that happened earlier that day, and you think you might've said something embarrassing

I have yet to experience some of these dreams, but I know that a lot of people have such vivid dreams to where they can remember each and every detail about it. I think dreams are an interesting way of your body and mind trying to tell you something that is buried inside of you.

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