The Powerful Question That Inspires Self-Love

The Powerful Question That Inspires Self-Love

My best friend and I use this one question to remind ourselves of our value.


I love February! There's a certain kind of joy that overflows in my heart knowing that January, the longest month of the year, is finally over. When February rolls around, I admit it, I totally buy into the Valentine's Day marketing schemes. So in the spirit of the month of love, here the powerful question my best friend and I ask each other to inspire self-love:

"Would you say the negative things you say about yourself to me?"

This one, simple question has the power to immediately stop us on our path to self-hate. This was a question inspire by an inspiring video created by two best friends who struggled with body image issues. They each wrote down the things they hate most about themselves and they read them out loud, as if they were saying them about each other. It was hard to watch, as they said such mean and degrading comments about themselves. I have to admit, the first time I watched this video, some of the comments they made were things I thought about my own body. Hearing those words said out loud, and towards someone else, really made me think. Would I say this about my best friend? Would I ever want her to feel as if she's anything but beautiful, strong and capable? Absolutely not.

When I think about my best friend, I am overwhelmed with love for her. I can immediately think of countless reasons why I love her. Think about your best friend. I bet you can easily come up with a whole list of the reasons you adore them.and reasons they should love themselves! When you think about the ample amount of love in your heart for your person, it seems kind of silly that there are days when you can't seem to say one nice thing about yourself.

"I can't do anything right"

"I'm so stupid"

"I look so gross"

Dive deep into the the way you criticize yourself. Whatever harsh thoughts or statements you aim at yourself daily, it's time to cut them out. We say the same things about ourselves day in and day out that it becomes somewhat of a routine. I want to challenge you to think about how capable you are to love your best friend so freely. You deserve that love from yourself, too. You wouldn't say such hurtful things to your best friend. Please be a friend to yourself.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Shoutout To My Parents For Giving Me My Best Friend In The Form Of A Younger Brother

He's not as bad as I first anticipated.


This is a story about my best friend.

I was lucky enough to have a built-in bestie from the day he came home with my parents and I immediately questioned who they stole the "creature" from.

My brother's name is Andrew and he and I have always had a catty but close relationship, which has developed into something I wouldn't trade for the world.

When we were younger we were the most jocular kids you could find and spent our days running around with our school friends shooting each other with nerf guns, hiding in every corner to leap out and give the other a heart attack.

We would hang out for hours until someone antagonized the other (Andrew was always the trouble maker) and yelled for our mom to intervene, or took out our ager by practicing our yellow belt karate skills on each other until our fake punches got to be too much and we would die laughing.

I never realized how special my relationship with my brother was until I heard how my friends talked out their siblings. My friends would endlessly complain about how much they hated their brother or sister and wished they were never born; and me, being who I am, would be shocked that they used the h-word, and tell them that they must still love them which they would relentlessly deny.

Seeing these failing relationships taught me to cherish what my brother and I have, and that is honestly the most important responsibility, and gift, I could've ever been given.

Looking back, the best childhood memories I have include him, and I wouldn't have it any other way. From founding the science club (his closet that we would do experiments in, and give our friends golf balls with their name on it as a key), to sledding down a three-foot hill in our neighbor's backyard for hours, to surfing and boogie boarding until we turned to prunes, to the endless games of HORSE we played (I don't understand how I'm still terrible at basketball), he's been with me.

Since then, our relationship has blossomed into much more than snow wrestling and movie binging; now as an adult, coming home from college is the most stress relieving and exciting time, because I know I get to hang out with my brother and talk about the most obscure things until he makes me get out of his room (because teenage angst, you know!!).

Thankfully, the required familial love has turned into a never-ending love for my best friend and little brother, and I can't wait to keep growing up side by side and to see what the world has in store for us.

ANDDDD HE'S 17 (as of the 15th)

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