Inhale Confidence, Exhale Doubt

Inhale Confidence, Exhale Doubt

Accept you for you, and let your strength and passion be bigger than your fears.

Mind over matter is what they always say, but that can be hard if you struggle with self-love. There is some good in the worst of us and some bad in the best of us. Many of us never live up to our potential or don't approve of ourselves. We had people that we wanted or needed to believe in us, but failed to.

All of us struggle with flaws and insecurities. We all have felt that we are not good enough for something at some point in time. Society has made us question if we are too fat or if we are too skinny, if we are pretty or if we are ugly. We are all trying to become a better version of ourselves. Which is why it's not a question if it's a question of when. When are we going to look in the mirror and finally fall in love with ourselves? My answer to you is now.

If there is anyone in your life who is causing you a lack of self-love, they are just there because you are settling. They are a piece of clutter holding you back. They are holding up a space that someone supportive, contributing, positive, useful, and nurturing could be holding. You don't even have time to look and see what's out there because you are surrounding yourself with people who are not enabling you to grow.

Experience the dignity and the sense of character you are becoming. As I always say, we are all growing as human beings. All of us have greatness within us. If you're not seeking it out —if you're not experimenting or trying to find yourself — you're setting yourself up to be a miserable person.

How else might we be setting ourselves up? Procrastination. We put things off over and over again. Why? Because we don't feel deserving. Stop putting it off and start fresh right now. You must enter a relationship with yourself before anyone else. Work on that. Focus on that aspect. Don't look back or fall back and settle — do something about it. Loneliness is a sign that you are in desperate need of yourself.

What kind of person are you becoming with the relationships you have right now? Are those relationships nurturing you to help you grow and contribute to you? It's important to evaluate yourself and your well-being.

There are many good things that people see that we can't see because it's a blindspot, but we are suppose to see it in ourselves. Which comes to the next question: what is your expectation from all of this? What do you expect to get from these relationships? What do you expect to do for yourself? People who have a strong sense of self-approval have high expectations from others, from themselves, and from life.

You are your number one priority. You are your own peace of mind. You have to stop thinking negative and eliminate the negative people in your life that are toxic to you. Don't neglect yourself. How you love yourself is how to teach others to love you. If you are not enough for yourself you will never be enough for someone else.

So stop running in circles; you are worth it and you can strive to be the person you want to be. You must want to spend the rest of your life and well-being with yourself first. Learn from life and the experience. Decide that you are beautiful and you are worth it; don't let anyone make you feel less of yourself. We are all born so beautiful and so unique; the greatest tragedy is being convinced we are not. Accept you for you, and let your strength and passion be bigger than your fears.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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