Your heart is broken. You don't think you'll ever be okay again. Could you ever live without him? The answer is yes you can and here are twenty post-breakup songs to help you rock your newfound independence. Rember ladies, you are a strong, independent woman who don't need no man!
They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?
I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.
You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.
You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.
If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.
Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.
You can't breathe, you can't think, you've lost all your energy.
All you can think about is... you weren't enough, you weren't worth the wait or worth fighting for.
You feel like it was all you and you had to change even if deep down you know you did your part and did everything you could to be "perfect" for him.
You can even see the wrongdoings of the one who won't be named, but you won't justify his actions, maybe because you just see good in him or you're afraid of him leaving or maybe because he manipulated you into thinking he wasn't in the wrong and his feelings matter more than yours. Maybe he just didn't want you, so he made an excuse.
You let go and leaned on him and got attached and now you're trapped underneath with what it seems like the world crumbling down on top of you with every breath you take.
You probably keep asking yourself "why" or "it doesn't make sense."
You probably feel like or have been told you weren't worth their time, and you convinced yourself that maybe it's true without even realizing it. It'll be hard to break this cycle and only time will heal... you probably hate this saying as much as I do because I don't know how much time I need, and I want time to happen now...
But you have to move on and keep pushing forward. You can't give up and slump deeper into the ditch you made for yourself. You're young and have way more things to worry about than a stupid, unworthy college boy, definitely not a man, who couldn't see your worth.
I'm not saying it's going to be easy. It's going to hurt for a while but you can't just do nothing; you've got to do something. Keep moving even if that means just going outside in the sun just to sit and listen to the birds or people walking, or praying, or taking a long hot devil shower, or working out... you can't stop moving.
Don't let him win.
And one day you'll be able to breathe and open your eyes with a bright smile, and you'll stand up straight again. You'll find someone or something that knows your worth and that makes you feel worthy.
One day is close by... don't give up.