Independent and dependent. Just like a positive and negative charge. We will always attract to one another. We can't live without one another, but yet we always argue, disagree, fight and lose one another.
Independent people are your people that can hold their own. They don't need others to tell them what to do, because they like to do it themselves. When they are in a relationship, they are the ones who wear the pants and they do not want to baby their partner. So, sorry dependent people, but independent people don't do the whole roses, sweet messages and fairy tale ordeal. They are very prideful. They don't like being on their phones all day, and they don't realize how hurt dependent people get by their actions.
Dependent people on the other hand are the people that need independent people. They like to take care and do for others. They are hurt pretty easily. They like to make plans but will cancel if the independent person wants to hang out. They harp on the bad a lot and not the good. They will wait for that one text and get ill if it's not in a certain time.
Neither side is wrong for how they act. They both are perfectly good people and their flaws are only seen by the other. These people are normally friends or partners and boy, do they argue a lot. But they are also the ones that get along the best. We don't understand each other, we probably never will, it's just like boys and girls-- we can't understand each other, but we can only try. Whichever person you are, you are not a bad person or being rude when you act the way you do, that's just how it comes across to the other. Sometimes, it can get to be too much and you may want to just push them completely away. Don't do that; you are only hurting yourself. You have to be mature in your relationship to try and understand your friend or partner.
Aside from relationships and personalities, being independent or dependent is only a small portion of a person. You just have to play your cards right and keep your eyes open to the other's side. Personally, I try to play both sides, but in reality I am more dependent in my relationship. But I've learned how to control my emotions and can deal with an independent boyfriend. My whole point is to say if you're in a friendship or relationship with an independent or dependent person, understand that they've always been this way and will not just change in a whirlwind. Be patient. It's not easy, but don't let them bring you down either.
