Being Independent
Start writing a post
Politics and Activism

Being Independent

Don't be intimidated by my ever-flowing independence.

21
Being Independent
Pexels

I’ve been told many times that I’m probably single because I'm intimidating. Well, to everyone who finds me intimidating: Get the heck over it. Yes, I can change my tire (as long as I can figure out how to use the jack) and yes, I can plunge a toilet by myself too. I am strong and independent. Why is being independent seen as an intimidating trait? If anything, it should be seen positively, not as something to hide from.

Have Your Voice Heard: Become an Odyssey Creator

I learned how to be strong and independent because of growing up in a household where I was told that I can do anything, even the things that are typically jobs for boys. There was once a time I wanted to be a plumber. The only reason I didn't pursue that was because I was talked out of it. I still know that I could do it, but I'm not sure if that's where my heart wants me to go.

I'm not going to hold back or hide who I am, ever. People probably think I'm an insufferable know it all, or that I come off too strong. Who cares?! That’s who I am and there's no use in hiding it.

I'm not going to chase around boys or try to get their attention. I'm not going to act dumb just so a boy can come to my rescue. That's just not how life works for me. I don’t need a man in my life to help me with anything. (I'm not saying it wouldn't be nice).

This isn’t only for boys though, women are intimidated by independence also. I think it’s because “back in the day” women were supposed to be dependent. Women were not supposed to provide for the family or wasn’t expected to do anything except keep the house and raise the kids. Fun fact: Back in ancient times, it was women who gathered the food that was eaten. Yeah, they didn’t hunt, but the hunters didn’t always come back with much. Most of the food eaten was the food gathered by the women… Newsflash! Women were providers. I don’t know when this changed and I don’t understand why it did.


Everybody needs to realize that independent people are not something to be afraid of or intimidated by (in a bad way). Independence is one of the best traits someone can have. It shows that these people choose to be with the people they choose and they aren’t forced to be because they can’t take care of themselves (friendships, relationships, etc.) It’s time that we erase the intimidation of independent people and start teaching that independence is a good thing!
Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

39569
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

24141
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

950175
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

129214
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments