All our lives we waste time looking for the right person. That one person you dream about, that dream wedding you imagined and your future together. As my third year of college almost comes to an end, I realize that you have the rest of your life to find your person.

Finding yourself and falling in love with you is more important than stressing about that one guy. Young women often worry and find themselves struggling with identity, but as a woman, you need to put an end to it. Women do not need men or their significant other to make them happy, they need to go out and become an independent woman. Find something that makes you happy, that is enjoyable and that makes you become a better person. Do not worry about that one guy that makes your heart melt over and over again, but instead, focus on yourself.

Let's face it, we all need to give ourselves a break and escape into the life we wanted to have. Many woman struggle with being independent and often find themselves stuck or alone. I’m still trying to become more independent, but with the help of what I enjoy it get’s easier each day. Ask yourself these following questions and thoughts to take your first step in becoming an independent woman.

1. What do you enjoy the most?

Think about one hobby or activity that you love, now expand it into something that changes you into a better person. For myself, it is working out, reading and focusing on my career path. I began to revolve my thoughts and actions around these certain things.

2. Make your own decisions before anyone else.

Do you ever feel yourself always waiting for your best friend or boyfriend to make a decision? Start to change this outlook and instead of waiting, make a move that is going make you happy.

3. Remove any obstacles in your path.

Do you find yourself stuck in place and surrounded by people who lead your life? Change this and remove these obstacles, because people who do not support your independent life do not belong in your life.

4. Reserve time for yourself every day.

When is the last time you had some “you” time? Give yourself a pat on the back for all the work you are doing and reward yourself. Set aside at least an hour each day to do something you enjoy.

5. Love yourself before anyone else.

Finally and the most important one is being in love with yourself. So many women, like myself often become self-conscious and will lower their standards to meet someone else’s. You are your own person, so do not let someone change that.