Why It's Important To Confront Your Feelings

Why It's Important To Confront Your Feelings

The sooner you do this, the happier you will be

As much as it pains me to admit it, feelings are real. They’re not a figment of your imagination and they aren’t the devil. Feelings are very real and they can cloud your ability to think clearly.

It’s your feelings that make you human and sometimes you would rather run away from your feelings then look them dead in the face. Why? Because feelings are scary as hell.

Running away from your feelings is the easy way out. And even though I am 100 percent guilty of this, I know in the back of my mind that your feelings always catch up with you.

The same way a tequila shot does on a Saturday night, one minute you’re downing shots and chasing with a lime and the next you’re blacked-out, dancing the night away. Maybe you don’t confront tequila because you want to take that shot, but you can definitely confront your feelings.

Confronting your feelings isn’t an easy task, it’s something most of us dread doing but it’s necessary. The only way to feel better in any situation is to feel out your emotions and move on.

Relationships, jobs, friendships– these are all reasons we run away from our feelings instead of confronting them.

Maybe you’re afraid to walk away from that relationship you’ve waited so long for because you’re no longer interested.

Maybe you want to quit your dream job or terminate a toxic friendship.

Maybe you’re afraid of choosing the wrong guy or girl when faced with two options.

Even thinking about these hypothetical situations has me feelin’ some type of way.

But no matter what’s going on in your life, you enter fight or flight mode. And with that, most of us choose to run as far and as fast as we possibly can.

Avoiding your feelings makes them go away, doesn’t it? UM, NO.

You must do the one thing we’re all too cool to do; feeeel.

Imagine that, who knew it was so easy!!

Practice self-compassion.

I’m sure you have compassion for others when they are sad, angry or whatever they might be going through, so why don’t you have compassion for yourself?

Allow yourself to feel. If you take the time to understand and acknowledge your feelings, you will create compassion for yourself. It’s amazing how much you can alter your own mind by doing so.

We’re stuck with this notion that confronting our feelings is a weakness. However, people with the most emotional intelligence see this as a strength. If you stopped and took a moment to realize how you feel, maybe you would be able to change it. We forget that feelings are temporary.

We have the power to confront our feelings and face them, so why wouldn’t we do just that? I feel like the 2017 version of Rev. Run saying that, but it’s true, people!!

Emotions translate to physical energy.

Have you ever been upset and in-turn you to feel sick?

Have you ever ran away from certain feelings, causing you to become anxious?

It’s all because your emotions translate into physical energy. If your mind is telling your body that you’re upset and nervous, your body responds the same way.

Once you confront your feelings, feel them as hard as you possibly can, and release that energy, you will feel a sense of relief.

If you take the time to heal yourself, you will have the option to be genuinely happy. Isn’t that what we all strive for? To be the absolute happiest we can be?

Cry it out, scream at the top of your lungs if you have to and then let those feelings go.

Once you recognize how you feel, you’ll able to feel at ease again.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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The Selflessness Of Self-Care

It is OK to nurture yourself before nurturing others.


Do you find yourself prioritizing taking care of others before taking care of yourself? I do.

Let me introduce myself. My name is Saiarchana, and I am a nurturer. Nurturing people is something that has almost become second-nature to me because I am so accustomed to doing it. I love uplifting others and being there to give them support when they are in need. I love giving support to others so much that I am even majoring in Psychology. Nurturing is something that is incredibly important to me. I nurture others because I don't want anyone to feel alone or unsupported.

But, sometimes I forget to nurture myself.

I used to believe that taking care of others involved sacrifice. This kind of sacrifice was my own energy and self-care. I lived under the belief that by pulling away and taking care of myself, I would be labeled as selfish. So, I kept on nurturing others around me.

Until I broke down.

I was giving so much support and care to others, that I had forgotten about me. I am also a very important person in my life. My relationship with myself is incredibly important, and I had forgotten that. I was so focused on pouring love and care to others, that I had forgotten to water myself with those same sustaining forces. I was getting drained and worn out from nurturing and giving love to so many people around me because I was neglecting myself.

When I realized what was happening, I finally understood: Love is not starvation. I do not need to starve myself in order to feed others. I do not need to neglect my self-care in order to care for and give love to the people around me. Nurturing others does not equate to neglecting myself. Because, once I neglect myself, I end up not being able to show up fully for the people in my life.

I read a quote by an influencer named Allie Michelle. Michelle said:

"Taking care of yourself is selfless. An empty well cannot give water to a village."

When I read this, it was as if my eyes developed clearer vision. I recognized that I believed that self-care was selfish when actually it is one of the most selfless things I can ever do for this world. When I am able to take care of myself, I am at a healthier and stable position to give care to others. When I give from a place of lack, I end up lacking more. Giving my energy to others when I am in desperate need of recharging my own energy will end up making me feel emptier. It is like the good analogy from Michelle's quote. I cannot give from an empty source. When I forget to give love and care to myself, I reach a point where there is nothing left to give to others, because I haven't maintained a solid foundation for myself.

Giving care to others should be a fulfilling experience, not a draining one. In order for it to be a fulfilling experience, I need to make sure I am not giving from a place of emptiness. I need to nurture myself because doing so will give me a stable foundation. So, I finally understand the key to nurturing others: making sure I am nurturing myself first.

So, what now?

I am going to continue giving love and care to others. But this time, I am going to make sure I am nurturing myself too.

I hope you nurture yourself too. You are worthy of the love and care you give to others.

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