There are so many different approaches I could take with this; the feminist, the insecure, the humble. That as women; we are taught to apologize for our existence, that our being is often an inconvenience. Or that we as people; view ourselves as insignificant. We as people who chose to be moral; just want to be polite and kind.
We all know someone, whether it’s ourselves or another, who overly apologizes. You know, the one where you can’t get through a conversation without several apologies, usually for something that they don’t even need to be sorry for.
No matter the person, the reason, I’m done with this. Why do we belittle ourselves? For what purpose does this over-apologizing fulfill? I am one of those people, or at least I can be. With 2017 and new resolutions, I might as well pick something that will benefit me; to no longer apologize for my existence, for things out of my control, for things I am in fact not sorry for.
Lately I think I began to realize it more. When someone is walking in your direction and doesn’t move out of the way and they run into you. You’ll mutter “I’m sorry.” and they'll continue to keep walking. Stop yourself, why did you just apologize? Why is it that some people care too much and some not at all? Instead of dwelling on this difference and the things you can’t control, just start by focusing on you.
On the other end of the apology spectrum; when someone says I’m sorry, why do we say “it’s okay” when its not okay at all?
For starters we can start analyzing our thoughts and feelings a little more and actually use them to communicate better. Say what we mean, mean what we say; that type of thing. If you think about it, it could really be quite simple. Say you're sorry when you are in the wrong, speak up if you were hurt, explain your thoughts. Leave everything out in the open. These may seem like baby steps but they could make a world of a difference.
