Being single is thought of as a big deal in life. Everyone spends so much time searching for someone to spend the rest of their lives with. The only purpose of being alive is to find a soulmate. There is so much pressure in the world to not be single, and it sucks. With being single comes so many rules and so much judgement. It seems like that if you don't find your true love by the time you're 30, you're going to live the rest of your life alone, so you better just adopt a cat now.
Being single doesn't define who you are as a person. It doesn't imply that you're too high maintenance, have commitment issues, are too immature or anything else. Being single does not represent any aspect of you, your life, your knowledge, your abilities, the way you love others, or any part of how you live your life. There are parts of you where you may think "this is the reason I'm single," but out there somewhere someone is going to love that part of you the most. So do yourself a favor, never change the way you are just because your relationships just aren't working out.
Being single means that you aren't willing to settle for anything. You will not settle for anyone less than amazing, who doesn't want to spend the rest of their life with you, who doesn't want to fall asleep with you each night and wake up to you each morning. You want someone who inspires you every single day to be a better person. You want the person who is going to take you out of your comfort zone and make you see the world with a whole different perspective. You want the person who will endlessly flirt with you, love you, and cherish you, the person who still will give you butterflies every time you're with them, no matter how long you've been together. You want to be with someone you can picture yourself writing a whole new chapter or two of your life with. You don't settle for anything less.
This is a message to just live your life. You have so many other people in your life who love you so incredibly much. In the meantime, wait for that person. Be single. Pick up a new hobby or two that you'll love. Read a book. Hangout with your friends, your family, or whoever you choose. Don't think that being single makes you any less of a person. It doesn't mean you have issues and should just settle for the next person who shows even the slightest interest in you. That's not what love is or should be. So wait for that person. Don't ever settle. Don't lower your standards or expectations even the slightest. There's no need to stress out about being single. Life is too short to stress out about something that isn't even a problem in the first place.
