I'm Owning My RBF And So Should You

I'm Owning My RBF And So Should You

I should not be held responsible for the impact my neutral facial expression has on the world.

If I had a dollar for every time someone told me to smile, I would never have to work again. If looks could kill I might end up being responsible for casualties on a large scale. But anyone that knows me knows that I love to laugh and that I do, in fact, smile. However, my laughter and smile cannot be forced. I’m friendly, respectful and a delightful conversationalist (oh, I'm super humble also), but my face naturally gives off the vibe that if you approach me I might cut you for breathing.

Though this is a condition I have dealt with my whole life (see 7th grade school picture), in recent years the term resting b*tch face or "RBF" has been used to describe it. There have even been scientific studies on this phenomenon. But as with most things, I find it more productive to look at the positives. After all, I should not be held responsible for the impact my neutral facial expression has on the world.

Without further adieu, here are five reasons I am choosing to love my RBF.

1. I am less susceptible to wrinkles.

Move over anti-wrinkle creams, we've found the key to maintaining youthful skin and it's free.

2. People don't know When I am judging them.

You can say that you don’t judge all day long, but we all do it. Everyone makes initial judgments about people; it's human nature. The difference is what you choose to do with that judgment and the conclusions you allow yourself or society to draw from and attach to it. Some people were just born with a built-in way of concealing their judgment because we look like we're judging everyone anyway. *snaps fingers in "Z" formation*

3. People have to try harder to get to know me.

You can choose to run in fear, bow down or if you're lucky, have a casual conversation.

4. My game face is my only face.

Ready for anything.

5. Strangers don't interact with me.

The most fascinating people you know were strangers to you at some point, but I know that I am not alone in my dislike of certain interactions with people I don't know. By the way, do I need to mention getting hit on by sloppy drunk guys?

From politicians, activists, artists and celebrities to the woman who works at the post office, RBF doesn’t discriminate. Billions of women (and men) of all ages are affected (that's a made-up statistic — I don't actually know how many people suffer from RBF nor is there scientific evidence...). Hopefully, if you suffer from this condition these tips will help you start to own your RBF too.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning. You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret. So here are 20 tattoos where you can't go wrong. Here are 20 small tattoos with big meanings. (But don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!).

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki” means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris” means “light in darkness.”

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora” is translated literally as “Towards greater things.” It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore.” It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower’s first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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Yes, This Is My Real Hair

No, you cannot touch it. ​

I have been natural for about three years now and while I have been tempted to put chemicals in my hair to straighten it, I remained strong and refused; now my hair is the healthiest and fullest it has ever been. Being from a small town, not a lot of people see hair like mine and although many of these people have known me since I was a baby, I still ask you one thing. Do not touch my hair.

I know its really curly and bouncy, but that doesn't mean I want you to pull the curls out. Don't touch my hair.

I know my hair is soft and shiny, but don't touch my hair.

I understand that you're curious, but curiosity killed the cat. Don't touch my hair.

I'm not trying to be rude, but I don't know where your hands have been. Please, don't touch my hair.

If there is fuzz in my hair, tell me and I'll get it out myself. Don't take it upon yourself to touch in my hair to get "it" out.

You can look and admire, but please don't touch my hair.

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