Some days I barely feel like I can look after myself. With everything spiraling at me so fast nowadays, and life-long goals I wanted achieved by 30-not even close, having a child is the last thing I want right now. Let me state early on-I have so much respect for young mom's. I still cuddle mine when I'm sick, so the fact that you're able to take care of yourself and a little one, well I give you props for that.

I'm not saying there aren't women out there (my age) who aren't ready because everyone's different. I'm saying-me personally-I'm just now finding a point in my life where balancing doesn't seem impossible, and I know if I would have a kid, it would throw it all off for me.

Yes, I know I'd adjust, and I know my life would be changed in so many ways-many being positive. However, I realize that me having a mini me would change the game in a lot of ways, I'm just not ready for..

--I'd have to say goodbye to the dinner date nights my boyfriend and I love so much.

I know how he is, and I obviously know how I work as well, if we'd have a baby they'd immediately become our first priority (as they should) and we'd put ourselves second. I just don't believe we've had enough time to really focus on putting ourselves first. Sure, maybe that sounds selfish, but don't we want to hit all stages of life? If for any reason we feel we didn't get enough one on one with a certain stage, it's only fair to stay at that point for as long as you can/want.

For two years my boyfriend and I created a special date night every other weekend (some sooner, some way later) and we'd go to dinner. If we have a baby, excess money won't go towards luxury nights out, but towards baby diapers and formula.

--I feel like I barely get enough sleep as it is.

Some mornings I wake up for work, forgetting I went to bed at 2am doing homework. I can't even imagine having to stop my homework to spend a few hours devoted to taking care of an infant, then attempting to finish my homework, make it to bed (for what I think is a few hours) then being woken up for a random cry through the night when the little babe actually didn't need anything-just held.

I'm just not there yet.

That doesn't mean I'm not so excited to have my own baby. That also doesn't mean my boyfriend and I don't keep a list of boy's and girl's names in our phone (because we're both so eager the day we can have a part of ourselves and the person we love-running around.)

--I'm also still a kid myself.

If I told you I was fully an adult, I'd be lying.

I'm not solely responsible for my own bills..my parents help me.

I'm not sure how to do my taxes, and I can't even tell you how many times I needed to ask my mom if the shape of my rash was doctor worthy.

I still need help filling out a W4.

My dad has to remind me to check my oil and get my tires rotated.

In some ways, I'm very irresponsible, which is half the reason why not only am I not ready to be a mom, but I don't deserve to be.

I actually really want to be though. I look forward to this day, and I know when it comes, I'll be the best damn mom to my kid I can be, BUT THIS DOES NOT MEAN I'M READY.

I want to finish my education, and take a few years after school and devote it to saving and traveling.

I want to move into a house with the guy I love, and see how well we click working together as a team..just the two of us.

I want to take the time to figure all this out, without having to worry if I'm taking proper care of a child.

Becoming a mom is something we all (at some point) consider for ourselves. Some may think about it early on, and others may never give it a second thought.

I'm in such awe of young moms. I really mean that. When I'm sitting here trying to think of all the ways I couldn't make it work with a kid at 22, you guys come out and prove to the world you can do it, so kudos. It's just not for me right now, and I hope others out there that agree, don't hesitate admitting that.

We shouldn't be made to feel bad for not wanting a family at a young age. It's neither good nor bad. If you feel you're ready to put yourself and everyone you love second, to put the needs of a new baby first-then go for it.

When I know I'm ready to be a mom, it won't be dependent on my age. If I'm ready in a year, three, or ten-then that's when I'm ready.

But for right now, it's okay to be a girl in her early twenties-and not have a baby.