"I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, And Doggone It, People Like Me"

"I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, And Doggone It, People Like Me"

Why girls should stop listening to the world and start listening to their Father.
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All right, let’s be real. We’ve all had at least 10 moments this week where we’ve looked in the mirror and thought, “Wow, why can’t I look like [insert your favorite human being ever’s name here.]”

[For visual aid, i included what mental picture goes through my head in the scenario described above.]

But in all seriousness. We all do it! Whether it’s because we’re in college and haven’t stayed fit or the boy we’re crushing on prefers a girl who looks more like Blake Lively (I mean hey, I don’t blame him), we all get down on ourselves. Self worth is something that girls have been struggling with for years! I mean, why else were corsets invented?

I think the struggle to find/feel self worth is caused by the fact that we look in all the wrong places. A girl’s self esteem falls instantly when a boy doesn’t find her adequate enough or the scale shows a number she never expected to see three months ago (welcome to college). And I’m not putting anyone down here; I constantly struggle with feeling like a 10 when I think I look like a -3. But today’s society tells us that if you aren’t a size 2 with long hair and eyelashes, a toned body, and straight, white teeth, you’re at the bottom of the list.

It’s so easy to believe, though! I’ve been at college for a little over three months now, and I’m sitting here with the same-looking teeth I’ve had since I was 10 years old and without the fit body I had in high school (thanks, Coach Taylor). I’m constantly beating myself up for it, and I find myself wishing I looked differently than I do an unhealthy number of times a week.

It’s a trap. Once you start noticing your flaws, you become addicted. And while at times I feel like there is no solution, I came to my senses the other day and remembered something that I seemed to have put in the back of my head:

There’s a really cool dude who made you in a really special way for a really awesome purpose.

Yep. We’ve been told since our first day in Sunday School that God made us the way we are, in his image, for a reason. It’s been thrown at us a thousand times, and it’s easy for us to check ourselves out every time we hear it because it’s nothing new. But how many times will it take a Sunday School teacher or your mom pounding this information at you until you actually take it to heart?

He says in Song of Solomon 4:7, “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” He literally made every part of us flawless in His eyes, and He made us for a purpose. God is God. Trust me, I’m pretty sure He knows what He’s doing. He created man and, after saying everything else He created was “good,” said that man was “very good.” And not only did he create man, but He sent His son to die on a cross for man. Don’t you think God most really love the human race? And if He loves us so much, why would He create us as anything but perfect in His eyes?

So yeah, some boys might not see us through the same lens that our Father does. And yeah, maybe I’m not going to the gym as much as I thought I would now that I’m in college. But does that make me, you, or anyone else any less perfect in the Creator’s eyes? Absolutely not. We are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:4), and no pound on the scale or crooked tooth is gonna change that.

Yes, I still wish I had the body of a Victoria’s Secret Angel, and yes, I sometimes wish my teeth didn’t look like the kid I babysit’s do. But I’m still perfect in His eyes, and my value isn’t any less because I don’t look like Blake Lively. So, moral of the story: you’re good enough. Maybe you’re not “perfect” in the world’s eyes, but you’re beyond perfect in the eyes of the one who made you and loves you more than anything… and that’s all that matters.

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Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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What We Should Truly Take From Good Friday

Jesus' last few words on the cross should have special meaning in our lives

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"Father forgive them for they know not what they do."

These are the words that Jesus cries out on the cross as he awaits his death. He has been brutally beaten, ridiculed by those around him, his hands and feet are impaled to make sure he remains on the cross while the splinters of the wood poke and prod at his skin, and he hangs painfully on the cross with a crown of thorns on his head only to makes matters that much worse.

He is hung on the cross at noon only to suffer and die three hours later at 3 o'clock in the afternoon. After he dies on the cross, he is taken down and put away in a tomb behind a stone. Three days later he resurrects and walks out of that tomb.

The words that Jesus says are ones that have always stuck with me. "Father forgive them for they know not what they do". Jesus is hanging from a cross, dying in one of the most painful ways ever known to man, being betrayed by those around him and still finds so much love in his heart that he offers up a moment of forgiveness for us.

God's forgiveness is the ultimate form of love. God forgives us no matter what we do and forgives us no matter how many times we do something. How many times do people do us wrong in our own lives yet we can't find it in our hearts to forgive them?

How many times do we forgive someone but they make the same mistake at another point and we can't forgive them after that? How many times do we find it in our hearts to forgive someone but even still we can't seem to find a way to repair our relationship with them?

We've all been in this situation whether if we've refused to forgive someone for something that they've done against us or if we do find a way to eventually forgive them but we feel as if things can't get ever go back to being the way they were between us and them. That is the amazing thing about God's love.

He loves us so much that he forgives us when are truly sorry for what we have done wrong for a countless amount of times. In the example of the passion, Jesus forgives us for condemning him to a painful death met by betrayal.

While Jesus forgives us for all of these things, we struggle to forgive people for the simplest of things. When a friend says a harsh word to us after a hard day, when someone excludes us from something, when somebody puts others things or people before us, all of these things and more are things that we can find to be unforgivable due to the fact that we have been hurt in the process. When have we chosen to forgive like Jesus?

Quite honestly it is rare to find moments where we have forgiven as Jesus has forgiven us. When we receive Jesus' true forgiveness, we feel extreme love. Imagine the love that we can show and spread by forgiving others as Jesus has forgiven us.

If Jesus can forgive us after a horrifying death on the cross, then we can forgive others for the small things that come in our lives. This is one of the most important takeaways from Good Friday and something we should implement in our lives every day.

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