Here I am, one month away from college move-in day and every day following up to this day I have dealt with people constantly saying things like, "Oh, you should go into college single" or "Going into college with a boyfriend you had in high school is a bad idea."
Someone please tell me where in the rule book of life it states that when you enter a new chapter of your life you have to be alone. If the two of you have been together a long time, you've already been together long enough to see each other grow and change; what's the difference now? Embarking on a new chapter of life with someone by your side is even better, because you have a support system in your significant other.
Hard exam? Crappy professor? Your significant other is there to support you through all of the new, confusing, amazing things that this new chapter holds for you. I know that I will have my boyfriend by my side for the good days and the bad, and that's important because change can be scary. If you're dating someone and are about to go to college, why should you break up just because the two of you are going your separate ways in which school you've selected? Or even if the two of you are going to the SAME school? Whether it's long distance or not, if you have a good thing with someone, it certainly shouldn't end over something as small as distance.
It's OK that I'm going to college and staying in the same relationship I had in high school because nothing about it has to change. A lot of people say you should go into college single because there are a lot more people to choose from, and you learn a lot more about yourself. There are a lot more people to choose from? Really? If you're in a relationship, why are you even looking? If you're in a committed relationship, it shouldn't matter how many new, attractive students there are around you. It shouldn't matter that you could change and grow, but that's not a bad thing and it doesn't mean you have to go about that changing and growing alone.
If someone truly loves you, they should love you through the change and the growth. People act like when people grow up and mature, it changes them completely, as if their personality and all of the things their significant other has fallen in love with are suddenly gone (poof), they vanished and their boyfriend or girlfriend should no longer love them as a person. Really? That doesn't seem like being faithful to me.
It's OK for me to go to college in the same relationship I was in in high school because even if I do change and grow, it will be with my boyfriend by my side. I won't be looking around at other guys just because now there are new people around me, and if you're in a relationship already going into college, you shouldn't be either. If the two of you didn't go to the same high school, what's the difference?
My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half. We didn't go to the same high school, and he's also already in college. Why would I end something long term like that over something as simple as changing schools and getting a little older? Why are people saying this to me, but nobody has ever said it to him? Is it because I'm making the transition?
I could better understand a couple considering breaking up when it came to going off to school if one person was on one side of the country and the other person was on the opposite end and they felt like they couldn't made it work, but if you can make it work, why not try?
The easiest way to say it is this: If you have something with someone that's real and means something to you, and you want to make it work, but you're going off to college...just try. It's not worth it to assume it won't work and then regretting leaving someone for no reason.
