An Open Letter To My Ex Best Friend

An Open Letter To My Ex Best Friend

If we ever meet again...

It's unfortunate that things ended so horribly that today, we are strangers to each other at best. Or that I can't imagine doing half the things we spent our time doing with anybody else. You were my best friend and I won't ever forget you for that. However, like all good things, our friendship came to an abrupt halt. Maybe I should have made more of an effort to talk to you about the things that were bothering me in my life but, that's just who I am. I am difficult and so are you. Probably why we're strangers today.

However, I want you to that know that if we ever meet again, if we ever run into each other in some coffee shop years from now after we've gotten over the anger and resentment we currently have towards each other, I hope you're happy.

I hope you and that guy you're so in love with are living out the fairy tale that you never thought would exist for you. Because, in a lot of ways, you deserve it. We may not be best friends anymore but I still know you like the back of my hand, and if anyone is good for you, it's him. And if you're not with anyone, I hope that you've finally gained the confidence to be alone and know that it's okay. You're just as great with someone as you are without someone.

If we ever meet again, I hope we can still laugh about all the stupid things we did as unsupervised kids that our parents would probably kill us for. And then shudder to think that we were ever that dumb. I hope we can still recall all the late nights spent talking on the phone, saving each other from that week's crisis. And I sincerely hope, we can look back on it fondly because I firmly believe there was a time when those phone calls saved our lives.

I hope you have a job that you're happy working because life is too short to waste your time slaving away at a dead-end job. I hope you went back to school like you always talked about and pursued your own happiness and fulfillment. I know that I have, and I'd like the same for you. I hope you're living comfortably and you never have to struggle for the things that you need, with enough left over to have the things that you want.

I hope you're surrounded by great friends who come over on the weekends for a drink at the end of a long work week. I hope you have friends that know that on the bad days that you don't need to be dragged out of the house, just bring over some ice cream and cuddle up with some blankets and Netflix. I hope they understand that your life revolves around putting yourself out there for people who don't deserve it and I hope they know how to fix your broken heart when things don't go according to plan.

And a part of me hopes that if we ever meet again, years from now, that I can tell you how happy I am, that I'm working a job that I wake up every day excited to go to. Maybe I've found the person I'm going to marry. Wherever I am and whatever it is that I'm doing, I hope I can say that I'm as happy as I am right now, writing this to you.

Here's to 7 years of friendship and over a year since it ended. I truly hope you know that there will always be a place for you in my heart. Here's to hoping if we ever bump into each other, we could manage much more than a weak "hello" and an uncomfortable smile towards each other.


Your former best friend

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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Driving is a Privilege, Not a Requirement

You can take this to the bank.


I have been in three car accidents in less than two years.

No, I was not the driver for two of them, but that doesn't make the situation any less stressful for me.

Somehow I manage to get back up on my high horse and continue driving with new lessons in hand after every accident. I am choosing to share what I learned and observed because I want people to be aware of how their choices affect themselves and other people.

I started driving four months after my 16th birthday and got my license two years later. Part of this was because of insurance costs decreasing with age and part of it was my own choice.

I did not feel like I was ready to get my license or start driving on my own within six months of getting my permit, so I waited until I thought I knew everything I needed to know about driving on the roads.

Some people become of age and decide they want to start driving while others wait until they are ready. Some kids get a car for their 16th birthday while other teens are told they need to buy their own car if they want to drive.

My job is to remind you that it is a privilege to be able to drive so don't take it for granted.

Pay attention to the things that are going on around you. The more serious accidents that I was in were caused by other people being on their phones.

It is such a stressful thing to think that you can do everything right and in a split second everything could go wrong. I live by the motto: A text or phone call can wait, your life can't and shouldn't.

I also say: If you really need to take a phone call then pull over! It is really not worth it to cause an accident and have the thought of paying hundreds of dollars in tickets because you might have been speeding.

Distracted driving is such a serious thing but people want to believe that it is just one text and that nothing could go wrong.

This is not true. Everything can go wrong when you are not looking at what is in front of you on the road. Scary to think that a police officer can pull you over for speeding and following cars in front of you too closely.

You can think it could have been worse all you want, it does not change the reality of you putting someone else's life in danger as well as your own life because you had to send a text or call someone.

Playing with the radio while driving is a distraction too. If you do directions often then get a car with a GPS and set it up before you leave or get a GPS that you can mount to the dashboard. Set a station on the radio before you start driving and deal with the commercials.

Whatever the case may be, you need to think of your safety and other people's safety. Seat belts are also a very important thing. Sometimes they can save you from worse harm if you use them for their intended purpose; they have a lock built in so that you don't fly through the windshield if you are in a serious accident. It could hurt you more to not wear your seat belt.

When a person is in a car accident, it may not always cause physical damage, but it always causes emotional damage.

People go into panic mode because they are besides themselves on how something like a car accident could happen when they were doing everything correctly. It is not always about what you are doing but what other people choose to do on the road too.

It is a horrible feeling when the insurance company takes a look at the car and says that they are totaling it. Car accidents are a very serious and stressful thing, so make sure that you are doing the right thing as opposed to being responsible for the accident.

Don't make bad decisions on the road because it can affect others more than it affects you. Be safe and smart. Look around and make sure that your phone is out of sight because then it will be out of mind.

Send quick texts before you leave your destination. You can put your phone in a place where you will not be thinking about it. Also if you don't have to, don't use voice commands that can be distracting too.

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