As most teens, and young adults, I often struggle with who I am, or even who I want to be. The word identity, according to the dictionary, is the condition or character of being oneself and not another. The very definition is vague, especially when referencing yourself. It is often hard to define yourself without saying what you do, or how you do them.
For example, one may say, "I am a good friend and sister." This may be the truth; however, this is a description of roles you hold in your life. These roles that we play in life are often seen as who we are, but they are not. These roles may help us discover or obtain who we are and other qualities, but are not who we are.
If you were to say instead, "I am a good friend because I am trustworthy." This would give the other person an indication of a value you uphold, trustworthiness. This is a quality that may define who you are, or maybe only apply in certain situations.
Either way, it is important to listen to your instinct and make good decisions for you. All of the experiences in your life teach you a lesson, sometimes big, sometimes small. In times that you are frustrated or upset, think of what you can take away or learn from the situation. It is important to think about what your goals are and how you are going to reach them.
Do not let others stereotypes or words define who you are.
