Being in college is a weird transition phase. Sometimes college students seem to have their lives in order, and sometimes their lives are an absolute mess. Some people are supporting themselves, and some are still relying on their parents for money. Some people have their future career planned out and are working towards it, while some are just trying to make it through the week. Some people are in serious relationships, and some are single. None of these people are wrong, but somehow there have been arguments made against all of them. I think the most common argument I see shared on my Facebook timeline is the argument against being in a relationship.
It makes complete sense to tell people not to feel obligated to be in a relationship. Relationship status certainly has nothing to do with a person's value. Don't have a significant other just to have one. Don't feel like less of a person because you aren't dating anyone. I've seen these statements time and time again, and I could not agree more. The only statement that bothers me is "being single is more fun."
Everyone has a different definition of fun, so maybe that is true for some people, but if you are dating someone who is your best friend, there is no way it won't be fun! If you meet someone who you connect with, enjoy being around and want to date, you should not be worried about missing out on fun. We live in a society where hooking up is commonplace, and sometimes a genuine relationship is hard to find. Once you do find one, it is not worth it to let it go just because you have been told being single will be more fun.
A relationship with the right person will not feel restricting or constantly difficult. If it does, it should not even exist. I do not think people who are in a relationship are missing out on anything, and they should not be made to feel as if they are. A good relationship is not a burden; it is a blessing. You are not missing out on college just because you date someone while you are there. Everyone experiences life differently, and there are many ways to be happy. No one should feel obligated to be single or in a relationship during college. They should feel free to enjoy their time with whoever they care about most. That is the real key to happiness.
