Growing up, I've always dreamed of a Prince Charming, someone out of a fairy tale like I was some damsel in distress or something. I always pictured the things I read in books or saw in movies, and as I got older my expectations became even more unreal... thank you Nicholas Sparks.
I've always pictured someone who would show up on my doorstep every Friday with flowers and a new date idea planned for us. Someone who would show up randomly with my favorite food (which is Chinese by the way for all the eligible bachelors reading this) and prepared to snuggle up with Netflix all night. Or someone who would pick me up
But honestly, that's not realistic. It'd be nice every once in a while, but I shouldn't expect it. And I think that was the problem, having these kind of expectations for college guys, who are going through the same struggle I am. We're both trying to get through classes, jobs, saving money and things like that. It wasn't fair to expect them to spoil me in these ways when I couldn't do the same in return. And I think going through some college helped me realize what I needed in someone rather than what I wanted.
And that's a man versus a boy. A man who turns to God in his moments of weakness and thanks Him in his moments of glory. A man who makes me laugh, smile, and hopefully, who can say I do the same in return. A man who sees me in my successes as I see him in his, but stays humble through them. A man who sees and accepts all my flaws for what they are and loving me just as much for them (such as appreciating my childish sense of humor for example.)
As I grew older, I learned more about how materialistic things shouldn't ever be the expectations of a relationship. Flowers every once in a while, on a bad day, would be so lovely for any girl, but we shouldn't expect it. What we should expect is someone who brings out the light in our eyes, and the beauty in our personalities, rather than someone who showers us in things. Someone who realized that the better version of himself came to the surface when he met you, and that he began to see the world in a new light because of the love you showed him. Relationships are based off of the way of living you introduce to each other, and the new love that neither of you have known before. And when you realize that, well, that's when you become a woman versus a girl in a relationship spectrum.
