How To Please Women In The Bedroom
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

Guys, If You Want To Know How To Please Your Lady In The Bedroom, Then Do Some Research Into Women’s Health

It's time to do a little digging and start prioritizing her pleasure as much as yours!

3973
Guys, If You Want To Know How To Please Your Lady In The Bedroom, Then Do Some Research Into Women’s Health
Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash

If you've ever been involved in a sexual relationship, then chances are that at some point you've run into issues trying to make sure all parties are satisfied. It doesn't help that there's a lot of misinformation out there about intimacy and female pleasure, so it's no surprise that some men find themselves struggling when it comes to providing a more pleasurable experience for their women.

When you're younger it can be difficult for some women to communicate in the heat of the moment, especially if she's the more reserved type. If you find yourself lost on what to try next, here are some topics you should investigate if you want to hone your love-making skills.

Clitoral Stimulation VS Penetration

Contrary to popular belief, most women cannot reliably orgasm from penetration alone (only about 25 percent can). Meanwhile, 75 percent need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. If your only previous research into female orgasm was Pornhub then I'm sorry to say that most women do not orgasm from intercourse alone, and most do not ejaculate or "squirt".

The Orgasm Gap

Much like the wage gap, there is an orgasm gap between heterosexual men and women, with one study showing that only 39 percent of women orgasm during partnered sex. Men, on the other hand, orgasm 91 percent of the time during partnered sex. That's a very significant difference, and it comes from several different causes. Primarily as a culture we tend to value penetrative sex above all other sex acts, which makes some people think that this is the way both parties should orgasm. Of course most people know about oral sex, fingering and hand jobs, but often we don't consider them much more than foreplay. If most women can't orgasm from purely penetrative sex and we consider other forms of sex as mere foreplay then it's no surprise women orgasm less frequently than men.

In terms of other roadblocks to an orgasm, some sex researchers say that feelings of depression or anxiety can prevent some women from orgasming. Most women would probably tell you that orgasms aren't simply physical, but also mental. It's difficult to relax into feelings of pleasure if in the back of your head you're worrying about a deadline at work. Additionally, some women can feel pressured to orgasm or feel anxious that they're taking "too long". One way to combat this is not to ask whether they have or not – constant badgering would bother anyone, and it can take her out of the moment.

While it's difficult to make sweeping generalizations about how women orgasm since everyone is different, there are some studies done on the subject. A 2018 study found that women were more likely to orgasm if sex lasted longer, they received more oral sex, they acted out fantasies and/or they participated in sexual phone calls or texting. A common thread among these factors is the variety. It suggests that varying the types of sexual acts couples engage in is more likely to lead to climax for women.

Encouraging Self-Advocacy

The same 2018 study found that participants orgasmed more frequently if they advocate for their needs in bed. This isn't surprising – no one is a mind reader and it's unrealistic for anyone to expect their partner to automatically know what they want. Ask your partner to show you how she masturbates and encourage her to tell you what feels good or where to touch her the next time you two get busy. Words are much easier to decipher than a sigh or a moan, so ladies don't be shy – tell him what you need from him to feel good, otherwise you might be inadvertently subjecting yourself to unsatisfactory sex.

When it comes to having sex, the burden should never be placed on one person to make sure everything goes well. While men should broaden their horizons and start placing more emphasis on non-penetrative sex, as women I realize we also need to start asking for what we want. It can be a daunting task at first to speak up in the heat of the moment for fear of hurting his feelings but just remember that someone worth being with will appreciate you giving him direction. By both partners doing their part to make sex a great experience, they're much more likely to enjoy themselves.

Go out there, be selfless lovers, and put effort into understanding your partner.

Report this Content
Featured

How Long Would It Take To Mine A Bitcoin?

No one will give you the correct answer to this question because there are a lot of details that they need to know. But, you can roughly estimate it based on the equipment you have a few more factors. One thing that needs to be mentioned is that mining has changed a lot over the years.

10288
Mine A Bitcoin

they need to know. But, you can roughly estimate it based on the equipment you have a few more factors. One thing that needs to be mentioned is that mining has changed a lot over the years.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

5 Cakes You Need to Try This Winter

Spending the winter trying different cakes can be a great way to combat seasonal depression. Lift the spirits of your entire family by trying these five cakes.

27835
Try This Winter

The winter can be a dull time spent indoors with very little change. But, it doesn't have to be that way. There are plenty of ways to spice up your daily routine, and dessert is one of them.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

5 Reasons to Consider a Career as a Defense Lawyer

Lawyers are supposed to be unbiased. Lawyers are trained to look at both sides of an issue and give equal weight to each side. It is meant to be their mantra, "My client is innocent until proven guilty."

101599
Career as a Defense Lawyer

Lawyers are supposed to be unbiased. Lawyers are trained to look at both sides of an issue and give equal weight to each side. It is meant to be their mantra, "My client is innocent until proven guilty." But if you're thinking about becoming a defense attorney, it's not this pretty simple. Defense lawyers argue that their clients are innocent because they don't want their actions to seem suspect in any way. They essentially say for the sake of the argument itself. If you're trying to decide whether or not becoming a defense attorney is something you would like to do, here are five reasons why it's worth considering:

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

What Everyone Should Know About Online Degrees

Nowadays, many working adults, high school graduates, and retired lifelong learners are choosing to advance their careers, lives, and personal knowledge by completing school at home.

200490
Online Degrees

The rising popularity of online college and graduate school degrees has completely changed the face of education and student life. It's no longer necessary to pack up all your belongings and head off to a distant locale in order to earn a diploma. Nowadays, many working adults, high school graduates, and retired lifelong learners are choosing to advance their careers, lives, and personal knowledge by completing school at home.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

What I am thankful for

I am saying one thing that I am thankful each day for until Thanksgiving. You try it to it will bring you joy.

149510
It's Thanksgiving time
Element5 Digital

November 1st, I am thankful for God and Jesus. I put my faith in them, they protect and help me through the happy and the sad in life. I could not imagine a world without them.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments