Every friend group contains what I like to refer to as “That Guy." Now, although the gender identification seems relevant, “That Guy” can be either a guy or a girl. “That Guy” is someone who always does the undesired behavior, with or without intention. He may have the greatest intentions; however, 99% of the time, his delivery is just wrong. I like to think of “That Guy” as the warm side of the pillow--no one likes when he is around, yet he seems to be unavoidable. “That Guy” is the one bringing the whole squad down, and if he sinks, he expects you all to sink and drown with him. “That Guy” also puts his well-being before anyone else’s and clearly disregards the term altruism.
Think you might be “That Guy?" Well, fear not! Here are four easy steps to follow in social situations that deter you from being “That Guy.”
Don’t use people.
No normal human being appreciates being used. If you’re only someone’s friend because there is a benefit in it for you, then, congratulations: you are “That Guy." If you cant be a friend all the time, those around you will soon catch on and try to avoid you. Don’t make people not want to be around you.
Remember that you’re not the only one on this planet.
Unfortunately, 6,999,999 other civilians, excluding myself, inhabit the earth. What does this mean? This means that individuals need to benefit themselves, while not putting others at risk. If something does not go a certain way, is a temper tantrum really the most mature response? I think not. Think of the other people around you for a change, get over yourself and be flexible. No one likes a Stubborn Stanley.
Understand the people you’re around.
Often times, people can easily vibe out the people they’re associating with. I can say that I have a strong sense when reading people’s emotions. 9 times out of 10, I am correct. Don’t be a hemorrhoid. Listen to the people speaking to you and caring about you. They obviously care about you for a reason, so you should cultivate the ability to read them. If someone clearly does not want to be around you, back off. Nothing is worse than being stuck with someone you don’t want to be around. If you had to evaluate your social interactions to see if this step applies to you, there is a super high chance you are “That Guy”.
Don’t cheat the ones who love you.
Although it sounds irrelevant, “That Guy” is the one who always, without fail, either forgets his wallet at home, gets a random stomach ache or didn’t bring enough money to the dinner that the whole squad knew about in advance. Borrowing money is something I do often with my friends, but after a while, the jig gets old. Pay your way respectfully and with care. Cheating out your friends is a clear symptom of being “That Guy.”
Avoiding the title of “That Guy” is a quite simple task. By following these steps, and keeping in mind the golden rule - treat others as you want to be treated - that was jackhammered into our heads in kindergarten, one can truly be a joy to be around and lose all worries of being “That Guy.”
