When you break up with a significant other, it may feel as though your entire world has shattered into a million pieces. It is heart-wrenching. The pain you’re experiencing can be unimaginable. It does not matter if you broke up with the other person and it does not matter what the reason is for your break up. It will always hurt deep inside your heart and soul. How do you move past this pain? It may seem impossible, but it is not. There are a few steps that we need to take to ease our pain. It may not be an overnight duty, but mending a broken heart is always possible.

One of the imperative steps that needs to be taken is to cut off communication with your ex. You may feel tempted to talk to them. I certainly have and given into this temptation. Talking to them, however, does not fix your heartache. They will feel no pain themselves if something they say or do hurts you. You are now in the back of their mind and on the bottom of their list of things that they need to worry about. It will be difficult when you first stop talking to them. You will want to pick up your phone and text or call them immediately. You miss the sound of their voice. It brings back heartwarming memories of the times that you two have spent together. This yearning will dissipate. Once you wait a few days without talking to them, you will begin to forget about their very existence. It will take something significant to think of them again. When this occurs, you will not have to worry about the terrible emotional pain that they can bring and may have already brought you. You will feel happy once again.

Another pathway that you may forge is focusing your energy and attention on someone else. This may not work until you have found the right person, of course. You need to find a person who feels special to you. You need to find a person who will make you forget about your ex when you are with them. Comparisons will only do bad, not good. When you find this person, make sure to utilize your time and energy by spending time with them. Although you do not want to seem clingy by spending nearly every waking moment with them, make plans. Put them in the forefront of your world. This may result in another relationship for you but even if it does not, you will have found someone who will remove the memories of your ex from the past and make you happy for every day you are with them.

In addition to these two steps, you will also need to find a hobby. This hobby should not be on your phone. It should not be a mobile game because then you will be tempted to talk to your ex once again. My own personal hobby is crocheting. Once you find your hobby, you can focus on it and the goals that you hope to reach in it. When you reach these goals, you will feel so proud of yourself and shrug off any disparaging remark your ex has made towards you. You will feel special again when you are working on your hobby. You will realize that there are things much more important than your ex.

Although these three paths are only a few ways that you can take to get over your ex and fall out of love with them, they are ways that should surely work. Once you are out of love, you will have a new horizon you can gaze on, looking forward to new challenges, goals and so much more.