I Asked 16 People What They Love About Themselves. They Didn't Focus On Physical Features

I Asked 16 People What They Love About Themselves And It's All Deeper Than Physical Features

To be completely honest, writing this article made me cry.

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It can become a habit to find things to dislike about yourself. Whether it be how your hair looks, what clothes you're wearing or what shoes you just bought, it's hard. I feel like our brains are purposely wired to trick our minds into finding more things we dislike about ourselves than more things we actually like.

So I wanted to put this to the test. I asked 16 people to tell me one thing they liked about themselves. I left it up to them to be physical things, mental things, emotional things, feelings, whathaveyou not.

The brain makes us think funny things about ourselves. These things aren't that.

1.

"I'd have to say probably my sense of humor. I really like being able to make people laugh or cheer somebody up."

2.

"My favorite thing about myself is my sense of humor because I love making people laugh and to be able to just do it naturally is truly a gift to me."

3.

"I like how passionate about things I can get!! Like if I find interest in something I'll likely be able to talk about it for hours with the same level and not get bored."

4.

"My favorite thing about myself is how much I love my family and friends, they are my #1 priority."

5.

"I really like my confidence within myself. I used to really hate my body and myself in general and hid myself and through the years of learning I shouldn't let society lure me into these ideas, that there is nothing perfect with my body, and that's BAD. I taught myself that fuck it, yeah I am different and imperfect but that doesn't mean I shouldn't love myself and do what I want and dress how I want and worry about what others think."

6.

"I love how much I know I care for other people. Sometimes I think it's insane the depths I would go for the people I love but I feel like it's a bigger reflection of myself more than anyone else."

7.

"I like how hard I work for the things I want. I feel like I've lost a lot of my passions and drives over the past few years, but I can feel all that coming back. I love that I work so hard to get to where I want to be in life."

8.

"My favorite thing about myself is my ability to bounce back from trauma and tragedy. Sometimes I forget everything that's happened in my past to get me to where I am today and when I remember, I'm reminded of my resilience."

9.

"My creativity!! Fun stuff or just getting our of homework, I'm imaginative."

10.

"I'm able to be emotionally vulnerable with others. Sometimes I feel like it can be a weakness but I need to remind myself that it takes a lot of strength to open up to people, even those closest to you."

11.

"I love that I'm empathetic and I love my nose ring."

12.

"That despite everything I've been through, I have not lost my ability to love."

13.

"I am caring."

14.

"My ability to bounce back whenever things get really rough."

15.

"My ability to love people so deeply!"

16.

"I love that I know what my weaknesses are and I know what my hardships are, but despite everything, I haven't let those things hold me back. I've kept going and kept growing."

Whenever I write an article like this it always opens up my mind to so many things. There's a huge level of vulnerability that comes with talking about yourself in any sense. I can be the first to admit (and definitely not the last) that it's so hard to find things to like about yourself most days.

What (happily) surprised me most about these answers was the fact that nearly none of them are physical features. We are so quick to point out physical beauty about people the instant we see them on social media or in a movie or a random stranger.

These things aren't physical. They are emotions and feelings and mental things that you would never see about another person unless you got to know them. That means something more than anything physical ever could.

I asked 16 people to tell me one thing they liked most about themselves. Now, I just want to know more.

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I Hate That I Struggle To Love My 'Midsize' Body

I gained a few pounds, but that shouldn't be the end of the world, yet it is in a sense.

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Junior year of college has been quite the wild ride. I've had the best academic year of my entire life, yet struggled, in the end, to even want to get anything done. I didn't care about a lot of the things that used to matter to me.

I gained weight at the beginning of my second semester and went up a jean size, so half of my summer wardrobe just doesn't fit me anymore, and it's made me feel embarrassed. I went from a size 6 to an 8/10, and while it doesn't seem like a big jump to the average person, it was to me. I don't like looking in the mirror and seeing a bigger pooch than usual, or how my thighs have gotten super irritated because they also got bigger. Chaffing I used to only have in the summer occurred in late January and even scared my inner thighs. It's not cute and it hurts when it flares up. I am terrified to wear my bikinis again because I know they won't fit, and the second I put on shorts my thighs are going to want to kill me if I don't kill them first.

I came to really love my body last summer after struggling through a rough breakup where I stopped caring about myself. I owned myself last summer and as much as I want to again this summer, I'm really struggling with the idea of it.

All I feel like I see on social media are skinny girls with zero hint of a pooch or thick thighs in sight. I've never been a skinny girl and I never want to be, but I can't help but envy the people I've seen online and in person. Of course, what I see on social media isn't really accurate, but it's still been tough to look at these girls who seem like they don't have a care in the world. They can eat whatever they want and still look flawless. They can throw on a bikini and not have to feel like they need to suck everything in so no one sees their pooch hanging over their bikini bottom. As a stress eater who is still too terrified to try on her bikinis, I'm not looking forward to showing my body off when all I want to do sometimes is hide it because I don't feel happy with what I see.

I will always love being a curvier girl and YouTubers like Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, and Lucy Wood have given me a new boost of inspiration to embrace the body I have right now. I'm not skinny but I'm not plus sized either. I feel pressure from myself and certain people in my life to be skinnier and not "let myself go." I

'm so happy to have friends who have helped me through my struggles and support me, even when I don't want to support myself. These YouTuber's have opened my eyes to the fact that this body deserves to be loved just as much as my former, smaller body.

I want to love myself with 100% of my being and I hate how much hatred I've allowed to go on inside of me. There is only one me and I need to be proud of her. Maybe she gained some weight and isn't what society expects from a girl, but she's still amazing and has so much to offer.

I wish I could see more girls like me on YouTube or social media offering a representation of my body type, which I hardly ever see. Aerie and American Eagle have done a fantastic job of including different body types and it's been a great help in seeing that they really to make clothes for all types of women, not just a size zero to two. Added representation really does wonders for someone suffering from low body confidence like me.

While I hope to begin my journey into losing a few pounds this summer by jogging whenever I get the chance, I'm not going to put intense pressure on myself to look a certain way. I am single for the summer and exploring life with my best friends by my side. I'm here to be the best version of me that I can. I cannot let negative thoughts about myself to dictate how I feel every day. I am strong, I am beautiful, and I need to love myself and my body as I am.

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11 Things You NEVER Say To A College Girl Trying To Get Into Shape

Just never talk about a person's weight.

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When my family and friends joked that I was going to gain 15 pounds in my freshman year of college as a result of the "Freshman 15," I thought it was what it was supposed to be: a joke. However, as the year has come to an end, I realized that I actually did put on a couple of pounds, albeit it wasn't the predicted 15.

As I told those that I wanted to get into an ideal shape for my body, I was met with some insensitive and ignorant remarks. Everyone thought that I mean just losing the weight I had put on.

1. "You walk to all of your classes, why aren't you losing weight that way?"

My legs are more toned than they ever have been before. However, most of the weight I have been gaining has gone directly to my gut (annoying!) and walking does not remedy that. Unfortunately, I have to stick to ab workouts.

2. "But you look fine to me!"

I don't feel healthy to myself. I'm not trying to stay in shape for anyone else, just myself, thanks. I appreciate you trying to make me feel better about my body image but I know something has to be done.

3. "I didn't gain any weight in college."

Good for you. I did. I'm trying to do something about it.

4. "Just stop drinking."

I don't drink. Really, the only liquid I consume is water or iced tea. I don't like soda and alcohol makes me nauseous way too easily.

5. "Isn't the gym free on campus for students?"

Yes, but some people don't like working out in front of others. I am one of those people. My friend lives in an apartment complex that has their own gym and almost no one is ever there but not everyone has that luxury. Also, some are busy and do not have time for a quick jog or to stretch.

6. "You should try this diet/pills/exercise routine."

I am thankful that you are trying to help but my diet is just eating healthy and having a few cheat days in between. I know what exercises work best for me and I am just not taking pills. Bodies adjust differently.

7. "Don't starve/force yourself to throw up."

Trust me, I know. I'm trying to lose the weight healthily. If you do find yourself practicing unhealthy eating habits or realizing your body image is deteriorating, the NEDA Hotline is (800) 931-2237. Please reach out if you are going through hardships.

8. "Won't you have to buy a whole new wardrobe?"

If I drop (or even add) a size or two. We grow out and grow tired of clothes on the regular, what's the difference if you have to buy some because of a weight change? Plus, who doesn't love buying new clothes?

9. "Just eat healthier."

Didn't think of it! Options are limited at college where the dining halls don't offer all that much that is actually good for your body. Now that I'm at home, it's easier. But I'm already trying to eat healthy.

10. "You've evened out since the last time I saw you!"

This is code for you've put on some weight. I hear it mostly from older relatives because my friends will flat out tell me if I've gotten a little chunky.

11. "You're just stressed."

Personally, this one gets me livid. I do admit that when I am stressed or anxious, I do turn to food for comfort but when I am delighted and genuinely happy, will my body magically revert into a fit state?

Sadly, no.

Honestly, I am just trying to get my body back into shape. For me, that means cutting back on greasy foods and kicking a bad habit of sitting on my butt all day. For others, it could mean more or less. As long as your body is in good physical condition and you are content, the number on the scale and others' thoughts shouldn't matter. Take care of yourself.

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