6 Steps Every Man Should Take To Let A Woman Down Easy

6 Steps Every Man Should Take To Let A Woman Down Easy

Be the man who completely changes her perception of all the others.

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If I've known one real man so far in my life, it's the man who knew how to let me down easy after I told him that I've liked him since the day we first met (and no, he didn't actually feel the same way). However, he handled the situation so well and so maturely, I just couldn't go without sharing six reasons why. So, men, if you've got a woman in your life who you're preparing to let down easy but aren't exactly sure how to do it, then this article is definitely one worth reading.

1. Tell her how you really feel, and be straightforward about it. 

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One of the reasons why I'll always appreciate the way my crush let me down is that he didn't give me some basic excuse as to why he didn't feel the same way. Instead, he literally told me the truth: We just don't click. Despite the pain that came with hearing that, I really did admire his honesty.

2. Be as positive as you can throughout the entire conversation.

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From the moment he found out how I felt about him over the phone, my crush was exceptionally calm and positive with me from start to finish. His tone didn't change, nor did he say anything to make me feel even worse. Instead, he just stayed upbeat and made sure to console and make me laugh without showing any signs of awkwardness whatsoever.

3. Reassure her that you still want to keep in contact. 

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This honestly depends on how attached she is to you. In other words, if she's pretty much obsessed with you, then you might want to refrain from misleading her even further. But reassuring her that you'll probably see her around campus will help her to feel a lot better knowing that you still want to be friends with her.

4. Act as if nothing has changed between the two of you. 

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Even though he knew how I truly felt about him, my crush proceeded to talk to me just like we always have. Sure, we spent some time discussing my feelings for him, but then we just continued talking like two good friends again.

5. Let her know you're okay with her feeling how she feels.

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At one point, I told my crush I was sorry for telling him me feelings. He simply responded with, "It's okay. It's nothing to be ashamed about. These things happen, and I appreciate you for being honest with me." I mean, is he a fantastic guy, or what?!

6. Give her one last parting gift to make her smile. 

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Whether it's one last hug, fist pump, or an inside joke, she'll really appreciate it. My crush sent me a picture of his cat, and it really made me feel better knowing that he still sees me as a good friend and isn't going to let that go to waste.

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I Promise, He Is Not The One That Got Away

You will never have to chase what is meant to stay.

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You miss him. You miss the hugs, the laughs, the inside jokes. You miss hearing his voice over phone calls, you miss the late night drives, you miss the fun adventures. You miss your best friend.

The guy that you loved so much, that you once planned a future with, that you haven't had to imagine life without in so long, is suddenly gone. No explanation will make it easier, or less confusing, or less unfair.

You're probably thinking that you'll never move on. You're thinking that this pain you're feeling will stay with you forever. You think that you lost the love of your life, because how could a bond so strong not be meant to last forever?

Leaving the familiar is terrifying. It is so easy to believe that this was the greatest love you will ever experience. You're afraid to leave behind the memories. You don't want to start over, because no relationship you have with anyone else will ever be the same. Nobody is him, and nobody will ever be him. Scary, isn't it? Actually, no. This is the greatest truth that you can admit to yourself right now. Nobody will ever be him.

He left. He hurt you. He made you feel unworthy. He did not choose to love you the way that you deserve. Yes, he did make you happy for a season of your life. This is a beautiful thing, and you shouldn't deny it. Just because he did not make you happy forever does not erase the time you spent together. Every relationship leaves behind memories, and these memories will always be pieces of your life. It is okay to think about them. You will be thankful for them one day.

Love is not always meant to last forever. Loving someone does not bind you to each other for eternity. It's unfair, and it feels impossible to let a love go. Especially when you were certain you would never have to. You fear that he was "the one that got away". I promise you, this is so far from true. "The one" would not leave. He would choose to love you even through the rough times, instead of walking away. Saying someone is "the one that got away" is a counterintuitive statement, and frankly it's a load of BS. Yeah, sure, he got away, but would "the one" really put you through endless amounts of pain and suffering? Or would "the one" treat you with respect and love you the way you deserve?

I've been in this same situation, fearing that my ex is the person that I am supposed to be with and that I let him get away. But truthfully, I didn't let him get away. He chose to leave all on his own. And that by itself should be a sign that he really is NOT "the one". If you have to chase and beg and bargain with someone for them to be in your life, odds are they're not meant to be there anyway.

It ended because better is out there. It ended because the relationship was no longer best for the both of you. It may feel like you lost the best thing in your life, but there is a reason for it. If something leaves, it means that that something is no longer supposed to be in your life. And that means that you will be better off without it. He is not "the one that got away", because "the one" would do everything in his power to stay.

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