Handle Roommate Drama Like A Grown-Up, For Your Sake And The Rest Of The World

Handle Roommate Drama Like A Grown-Up, For Your Sake And The Rest Of The World

"Gretchen, can you please stop leaving your bras in the common room?"


Let's face it, college is rough. Imagine throwing a bunch of kids into the same living space and expecting them to act like mature adults when half of them have never learned how to do their own laundry. And there's nothing wrong with that - everyone learns how to "adult" at their own pace, some sooner or later than others. If you live with others, there's bound to be some sort of tension over something small that eventually escalates into a huge problem. Tension is unavoidable, but conflict can be prevented, and here's how.

1. Establish ground rules with your roommates

Maybe you don't like it when Gretchen leaves her bras in the common room. As early as possible, try to get all your roommates together in a little meeting to discuss what's okay and what's not okay (what time people can come over until, cleaning up after yourself, etc). It's so much easier than waiting until something pisses you off and then speaking out. If everyone knows from the beginning, it's much more likely to be smooth sailing from there.

2. Confront the roommate instead of involving the whole suite

If you live in a suite, it's all too tempting to go up to another roommate and vent about something the other did that annoyed you. Avoid this. Drama starts when the original party finds out you were talking about them behind their back. Just tell them up front about what bothered you before you start an issue.

3. Be considerate

For a lot of kids, this is their first time being away from home. Be mindful of that and have patience with them.

4. Don't be an asshole

Sometimes you're the problem. Take a second to evaluate your actions and consider if they would bother someone else. If the answer is yes, then try to make amends right away. Remember, you're living with other people and they don't have to put up with your mess.

5. Enjoy yourselves!

Yes, college is hard and stressful. But this is the one time in your life where you don't have any REAL responsibilities to take care of, like taxes (ew) or paying your rent. Enjoy the time you have with your roommates, make friends, make connections, and just try to steer clear of anything that could potentially cause drama you don't need.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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How College Changed My Relationships

Living three and a half hours home isn't always easy, a lot has changed.


At eighteen years old I was still young and naive about leaving home. Athens, Ohio was going to be this wonderful place where I always had a good time and I would be unstoppable. Literally, unstoppable. How could anyone tell me what to do in my own dorm? That was my space... DUH. I have family in both Pennsylvania and Michigan so going to school seemed like no big deal to me. My mom and dad always packed us in the car to see family, to me three and a half hours didn't seem too far. Along with changes within myself, many personal relationships changed as well over the course of this year.

Mom, my number one fan and my gossip buddy was hours away from me! Of course, we talk on the phone, shoot each other texts and silly screenshots, but it's not the same. It can be difficult to maintain that "close as can be" relationship over the phone. I wouldn't consider myself to have gotten homesick until very far into the semester. There is nothing like your mom taking care of you when you're sick! Our time apart has only made our time spent together more special, our laughs a little louder, and our hugs a little tighter.

Ryan, leaving your BEST FRIEND behind made making new friends a little awkward. I felt like I was cheating on our friendship, we literally have tattoos for each other and now we have to make new best friends?!?! Our contact with each other would decrease and pick back up when one of us had something juicy to talk about. She was busy with school and soccer, and I with school and friends here. At the end of the day, we always knew we had each other back through thick and thin, that's how best friends are. We could understand that every minute we had couldn't be spent on the phone finding out what was going on hours away. I have to tell you though, there are always a few tears saying see you soon when we head back to school.

Tyler, going into college in a relationship was definitely a difficult road ahead for the two of us, but we cared enough for each other to take on that road together. The first ten months of our relationship were spent within 20 minutes of each other and most of those ten months we were by each other's side. By no means was it easy to not see you every day when had the freedom to do so over summer. As the months passed, times got easier and harder and we are still figuring out how to make the distance work. It's a whole different level of effort with a significant other. I hope for better and easier times, only the happiest future.

God, coming to school I wanted to reconnect with God and become more spiritual. I had looked at some options on campus but didn't make the time needed for the one person I should have. I regret this decision the most, which I rarely regret in life. College feels like I'm moving 100 miles an hour and I can't catch a break. There is a heavyweight I cannot lift on my own and the only guidance I can ask for at this moment is yours. I know that my change in relationship with you is the answer.

At the end of the day, I'm thankful for all this year has brought me. With summer coming I hope to spend quality time with those I love and let them know how much I appreciate them.

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