This week was our five year anniversary, which means we have been together since 8th grade. Wow! How did we last through all that middle school and high school drama, and now college? Truthfully everything in this article goes both ways and can apply to any relationship young, old, gay, straight, what be you. The relationship has to be an equal partnership. Sometimes he will pamper you, but you have to do the same back.
One of the most important things we do in our relationship, and you have probably heard this a bazillion times, is be completely honest with each other about everything. Trust and being honest with each other is key in a relationship. If you feel the need to hide something from your partner then chances are your relationship is not all that healthy.
Also, you have to care about one another and take interest in each other. Being the girl in the relationship, I have to catch myself all the time because I realize that I have been talking his leg off for thirty minutes and haven’t once asked him how his day was. It’s really important to give your partner the attention and concern that they need, otherwise it becomes a one way relationship.
Now I’m no expert in giving relationship advice so don’t ask, I just know what has worked in my relationship. The biggest thing I want to stress though, is that fighting in a relationship is not terrible, but it is if the fight isn’t a healthy one. What I mean by this is that it’s important to come to some kind of agreement at the end of an argument, to come up with a solution to fix the problem so it doesn’t happen again. The fight can’t be forgotten but it can be avoided and it can end up bringing the two of you closer than before.
I am not trying to tell you how to run your relationship by any means. I don’t have enough experience to do that, but I do believe in the three things that I emphasized in this article. To tell you the truth my relationship didn’t just start out with these qualities, but as our relationship grew stronger and we became closer, we eventually developed these three characteristics.