How to Cope after Sexual Assault, Begin the Healing Process and Move Forward with your Life
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How to Cope after Sexual Assault, Begin the Healing Process and Move Forward with your Life

Healing is a process.

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How to Cope after Sexual Assault, Begin the Healing Process and Move Forward with your Life
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Healing is a process. Processes take time... unspecified amounts of time. The healing process is different for everyone.

What happened to you does not define you. It is not who you are.

You did not deserve it. You did nothing wrong. It is not your fault. It's only one person's fault. You may feel alone but you are not alone

You are not a victim, you are a survivor.

There will be triggers. You can't prevent them. There will be good days and bad days. One minute you are fine, the next you are not. One touch, one kiss, can take you back to a place you've tried so hard to forget.

One step forward...another step back?

Triggers will happen. Allow yourself to feel what you're feeling. Be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself.

You may be around people who make rape jokes. Don't tolerate them. Stand up for those who can't. Don't let an ignorant idiot ruin your day. Make them feel half as bad as you did.

Share your story when you are ready. Sharing your story could save another person's life.

Don't give up or lose hope. You may feel broken. The most important person to love at this time is yourself. One day you are going to meet a man who is going to fall in love with you, respect you, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It gets better.

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