How Not To Be 'That Guy' At A Live Performance, Because Everybody Hates 'That Guy'

How Not To Be 'That Guy' At A Live Performance, Because Everybody Hates 'That Guy'

Audience etiquette is often overlooked and that can be a huge distraction.

Let me start off by saying that attending live theatre and dance performances is an artistic, cultural, inspirational and overall wonderful experience that every person should do at least once in their lifetime. For me, it has been a privilege to attend and perform in a number such performances. It’s a time where you get to observe and take in the final product from hours upon hours of rehearsal. Performers give their time and energy for shows that can range from a week of shows to one night only.

That being said, audience members should have a degree of etiquette when going to see a live performance. This isn’t the movie theatre where the actors can’t hear you. If you’re disrespectful at a live performance, not only are you disturbing your fellow audience members, but also the performers onstage.

I was inspired to write this guide after an unfortunate encounter with a group of extremely disrespectful student talked, giggled and made inappropriate noises during a very serious and extremely well-done musical. This is for you guys to learn how to behave when going to the theatre.

Turn your phone off.

You heard me. Snapchatting your friend can wait until intermission or after the show. The bright screen, no matter how low you set the brightness, will distract other audience members from the action happening onstage as well as the performers. As someone who has performed before, I can testify that we can see you from the stage and yes, it’s not only distracting but offensive that you find texting more interesting than the show that we worked so hard on.

Don’t have a conversation.

I don’t think I can think of anything more infuriating than people who whisper during the whole performance. Pro-tip: nobody cares to hear your conversation. We came to experience art. Not listen to you talk. So do us all a favor and don’t speak. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t react to the show! Laughing and applauding during appropriate times is more than welcomed!!

For the love of all things holy, don’t eat, drink or chew gum.

Nobody wants to hear chewing or wrappers crumpling. Also, it’s disrespectful to the theatre and the house manager. Now, some theatres do allow food and beverage and if that’s the case, then go for it! If not, take it to the lobby.

Don’t show up drunk or under the influence of drugs.

This is a no-brainer and honestly, I can’t believe I’m writing this but we’ve had people show up inebriated to shows. It’s flat out rude.

Keep the critiques to yourself.

You never know who you’re sitting next to. For all you know, it could be a performer’s mother. Positive things only!

Once you know the basic etiquette of going to live performances, the experience becomes more powerful for you, your fellow audience members and the cast and crew of the show.

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11 Things Psychology Majors Hear That Drive Them Crazy

No pun intended.

We've all been there. You're talking to a new acquaintance, or a friend of your parents, or whoever. And then, you get the dreaded question.

"So what are you studying in school?"

Cue the instant regret of picking Psychology as your major, solely for the fact that you are 99.9% likely to receive one of the slightly comical, slightly cliche, slightly annoying phrases listed below. Don't worry though, I've included some responses for you to use next time this comes up in conversation. Because it will.

Quick side note, these are all real-life remarks that I've gotten when I told people I was a psych major.

Here we go.

1. So are you, like, analyzing me right now?

Well, I wasn't. But yeah. Now I am.

2. Ugh so jealous! You picked the easy major.

"Lol" is all I have to say to this one. I'm gonna go write my 15-page paper on cognitive impairment. You have fun with your five college algebra problems, though!

3. So can you tell me what you think is wrong with me? *Shares entire life story*

Don't get me wrong; I love listening and helping people get through hard times. But we can save the story about how one time that one friend said that one slightly rude comment to you for later.

4. Well, s**t, I have to be careful what I say around you.

Relax, pal. I couldn't diagnose and/or institutionalize you even if I wanted to.

5. OMG! I have the perfect first client for you! *Proceeds to vent about ex-boyfriend or girlfriend*

Possible good response: simply nod your head the entire time, while actually secretly thinking about the Ben and Jerry's carton you're going to go home and demolish after this conversation ends.

6. So you must kind of be like, secretly insane or something to be into Psychology.

Option one: try and hide that you're offended. Option two: just go with it, throw a full-blown tantrum, and scare off this individual, thereby ending this painful conversation.

7. Oh. So you want to be a shrink?

First off, please. Stop. Calling. Therapists. Shrinks. Second, that's not a psych major's one and only job option.

8. You know you have to go to grad school if you ever want a job in Psychology.

Not completely true, for the record. But I am fully aware that I may have to spend up to seven more years of my life in school. Thanks for the friendly reminder.

9. So you... want to work with like... psychopaths?

Let's get serious and completely not-sarcastic for a second. First off, I take personal offense to this one. Having a mental illness does not classify you as a psycho, or not normal, or not deserving of being treated just like anyone else on the planet. Please stop using a handful of umbrella terms to label millions of wonderful individuals. It's not cool and not appreciated.

10. So can you, like, read my mind?

It actually might be fun to say yes to this one. Try it out and see what happens. Get back to me.

11. You must be a really emotional person to want to work in Psychology.

Psychology is more than about feeling happy, or sad, or angry. Psychology is about understanding the most complex thing to ever happen to us: our brain. How it works the way it does, why it works the way it does, and how we can better understand and communicate with this incredibly mysterious, incredibly vast organ in our tiny little skull. That's what psychology is.

So keep your head up, psychology majors, and don't let anyone discourage you about choosing, what is in my opinion, the coolest career field out there. The world needs more people like us.

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What's worth more than red roses?


Five years old and a bouquet of roses rested in her hands. The audience-- clapped away her performance, giving her a standing ovation. She's smiling then because everything made sense, her happiness as bright as the roses she held in her hands.

Fifteen now, and a pile of papers rested on her desk. The teachers all smiled when she walked down the aisle and gave them her presentation. She was content then but oh so stressed, but her parents happy she had an A as a grade, not red on her chest.

Eighteen now and a trail of tears followed her to the door. Partying, and doing some wild things, she just didn't know who she was. She's crying now, doesn't know anymore, slamming her fists into walls, pricking her fingers on roses' thorns.

Twenty-one and a bundle of bills were grasped in her hands. All the men-- clapped and roared as she sold her soul, to the pole, for a dance. She's frowning now because everything went wrong, but she has to stay strong, for rich green money, is worth more than red roses.

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