So, you didn’t get into the college of your dreams. Your parents are getting divorced. You received an F on that big term paper you worked for weeks on. You failed your driver’s test. You lost a job you needed to pay the bills. Somehow it feels like the world is out to get you, and it seems like no matter how hard you try, things just won’t go your way.
We all go through it. We all have those seasons in our lives where thing after thing keeps on falling apart and we can’t do anything except to sit there and let it happen because it is out of our control. We sit and wallow in our self-pity in hopes that something will change or something will suddenly happen that will make everything better. We get to the point where we are just miserable and nothing has changed. Then we are faced with two options; to continue to wallow in our self-pity, or we can move on.
If you decide to continue to wallow in your self-pity, you need to realize that nothing is going to change. You will still feel miserable and hopeless. You’ll continue to cross your arms and shake your fist and let this world make you bitter, since you believe that the world is out to get you. I recommend you to not chose this option, because nothing in your life will improve. Yes, it is the easier option, but you will not grow. You will be stuck in that dark, miserable, bitter place.
After talking to an old mentor of mine recently after facing a lot of major setbacks in my life, I asked him a simple question.
“How do you keep on keeping on when everything in your life is not going your way, and no matter how hard you try, things just keep falling apart?”
And with a simple response, he replied, “You just do.”
How do you move on when things don’t go your way? You just do. You wake up and decide that you aren’t going to give up. You pick yourself up off of them ground and dust off your shoulders, and move on. Everyone has these season in their lives. In this life, things will not go your way. The loss of a job, relationship, or failing something that you tried your best to pass; it’s all a part of this life. You can let it make you bitter, or you can let it make you better. I have decided to not let my loses make me bitter. It isn’t easy, and it takes a lot of work. You have to work extra hard the next time on that paper you failed, or in the case of failed relationships you have to learn to not let the effects of others take away from your life. Moving on is a exhausting process, but if you don’t move on, you will never grow. We grow into the people we are meant to be during times of adversity, and learning how to move in is one of the most important lessons I have learned in my life.
So, how do you move on when things don’t go your way? You just do.
