"When the going gets tough, the tough reinvent." - RuPaul
I'm no fitness instructor or nutritionist (as a sit here shoving my face with strawberry jellybeans) but I do know that we all have some baggage we would like to get rid of. Whether it's feeling for an ex-boyfriend, lack of trust from a past relationship or feelings of worthlessness, you have to let that shit go.
I'm no fitness instructor or nutritionist (as a sit here shoving my face with strawberry jellybeans) but I do know that we all have some baggage we would like to get rid of. Whether it's feeling for an ex-boyfriend, lack of trust from a past relationship or feelings of worthlessness, you have to let that shit go.
It all starts with accepting you past, easy right? Yea, I wish, but it's not as hard as it sounds. Lay it all out on the table because the only one who can solve the mess is you. It's your past and you're the only one who can answer for what happened in it, especially if the person who made you feel this way is on your blocked list. Take a moment to analyze one last time, heres the fun step, now let it go. Who you're with now is not the same person you were with. I know the idea of getting burned again is scary but you're not going to be happy in your current relationship unless you let that go. The same goes for friends as well as significant others.
Friends burn us all the time, that doesn't mean we stop making friends. You can't just stop communicating with people because you're scared. Same with trust. You can't just stop trusting everyone because one person hurt you. Or maybe three or ten people hurt you. This can seem like a lot but girl do you know how many people are out there? A lot. We all know the topic of trust is a touchy one, if someone has broken your trust it can be hard to trust again. Don't let someone else's mistakes affect how you think of others. I've been there too, I've broken trust and got my trust broken. Neither of those are fun things to deal with. You can heal though, you can learn to trust again. I promise.
Lastly, but not least, I'm excited to talk about my favorite piece of negative baggage. The idea of worth. I wish this was something I didn't have to talk about but sadly it's one of the most important. Quoting my fav girl RuPaul "Learn to love yourself, 'cause if you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?" Tell 'em girl. Anyways, RuPaul has a point. If you don't love yourself and drop all that negative made-up shit your mind likes to play around with, how are you going to grow in your relationship? This is a problem I also frequently deal with and I won't say it's an easy one to get rid of. Whenever I'm feeling really low though, I like to fill my mind with positivity for a week. Everyday, I will write a few things I like about myself. If I think anything negative, I will catch myself, and I will rework that thought in to something more positive.
It can be difficult, but it is possible. So, hopefully this helped you all and by the end of this week maybe you'll be able to lose some pounds of baggage. Good luck!
