The way love worked always had a question mark for me during high school. Love for me was basically like trying to figure out how J Cole still hasn't won a Grammy. Throughout my years of high school I had girlfriends of course, just like how most people get into relationships with their peers of those who you pass by and look twice at in the hallways. In high school I would always believe I was "in love" with my significant other that I was with.
I used to believe in the fact that just because I was with somebody I had to be in love with them, simply because I believed in the fact that a relationship without love isn't one at all. Problem with that is that love could never be that simple. The math of love felt like a simple equation, but I just didn't have the X factor in any of them, no spark you could say.
After a couple of relationships I was sick, just sick of whatever trying to figure out the definition of love really was. So I decided to stop trying, to just enjoy life as is and maybe eventually I would find my person. In early September I had, I stumbled upon my beautiful person at my job at Panera Bread and at first sight I knew she had to be mine. After spending days upon days with each other I started noticing how important love is in life. Not just in romantic love, but for my family, my friends, and love for the simple joys in life. It's taught me to accept the people in my family for their flaws and to accept that I can't change who they are, but to love them no matter what. It's shown me to love my co workers and to realize that taking an interest in their lives and not just working with them could make their day just as much as they could mine.
Enjoying the simple pleasure's like a Taco Tuesday dinner or watching the Philadelphia Eagles play on Sunday, even if they lose by less than a touchdown to the New York Giants. After days and days go by I've finally realized that the definition of love is however you describe it yourself, wether it be for your significant other or for your favorite sports team, or your simple pleasures.
Love has changed my outlook on life in more ways then I could describe and I'm forever grateful for my girlfriends love in my life. Now that I've found my X factor the equations start to make sense, and it's really only one and it can be simple, if you add the effort, multiply the trust, and subtract the distractions you can find the X. And for those wondering yes, I do believe J Cole will find his X factor eventually with a Grammy.
