There are few things more satisfying and self-empowering than acknowledging what you deserve in life, and making a conscious effort to get it. In my opinion, this includes a variety of things:
1. Realize what you want out of your relationships with people.
Whether it's respect, acceptance, honesty, affection, support, or any other attribute, it's so crucial that you look within yourself first to recognize what exactly you're looking for from the people in your life.
2. Realize nothing in life is just handed to you.People won't always be kind to you. People won't always give you exactly what you want. Sometimes this means improving communication and being honest about your expectations, sometimes it means changing your perspective on things. Whatever the solution, it's important to make the decision not to play "victim." I've learned from personal experience that if people don't treat you the way you want to be treated, there's a reason behind it.
3. Look for the source of the problem.
Are you the kind of person that's "too nice" too often? Do you let people walk all over you, over and over again? Do you accept sub-par treatment from people because you're "used to it"? Here's a secret: don't be used to it. It's also important to not be closed off to the idea of your own self-being a part of the problem. As my 8-year old nephew says, "If you aren't nice to people, people aren't going to be nice to you, and sometimes people aren't nice even if you are."
4. Fearlessly address the source of the problem.If you've come to the conclusion that maybe people don't show you respect because you don't do the same for them, swallow the pride pill and fix yourself. If it's your lack of straightforwardness, your inability to clearly say how you feel, allow yourself to be vulnerable. If you're too vulnerable with people who don't deserve it, recognize that. Don't be afraid of change; even if it's scary now, it could be so worth it.
5. Be kind, forgiving, honest, and bold.
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting their own battle." Always remember this. Remember that you might catch someone on their worst day, and, even though, that doesn't necessarily entitle them to treat others badly, try to put yourself in their shoes. Don't lie to yourself about what you want, don't lie to others about how they treat you, don't lie to anyone about anything or you're literally digging yourself a hole. Just don't lie. Don't. Also don't be afraid of recognizing that some people are temporary, they are simply not meant to stay in your life forever. Be bold in action, kind in word, and continuous in thought.
