That’s the big question, isn’t it? The question all of us hope to answer at some point in our lives. How do you know when someone’s 'the one?' How do you know that that person is the one out of seven billion others that you’re supposed to choose? Well, I can’t completely answer that for you, because I’m not you and I’m not in your relationship. But I can give you a few key things to look for that might help you understand.
1. You still get butterflies every time you see them.
If you’ve been dating someone for years, and still get that excited, unexplainable feeling in the pit of your stomach when they’re around, that’s nothing to brush off. It means they do something to you that no one else ever has. It means there’s a connection deeper than just physical attraction because those butterflies would have fluttered away a long time ago if it was just that.
2. You can listen to them talk about something they’re passionate about…forever.
When they’re talking about something they love, do you find yourself completely wrapped up in their words? Do you notice the small way their eyes light up and the way they get lost in their train of thought? Even if it’s something you don’t necessarily care about, do you find yourself wanting to learn more just to hear them speak? Need I say more.
3. They annoy you in a way that no one else can.
This might seem like a contradiction. You’re probably thinking “if someone annoys me, why would I want to be with them for the rest of my life?” That’s a good question, and the answer is that you don’t. If they annoy you 100% of the time and don’t try to work on it, run far away. But, it’s not about how much they annoy you, it’s about how you both work together through the annoyances. It’s the open communication, apologies, and small changes that make the difference. If the person you’re with is at least trying to hear you and work on things, then what more can you really ask for? Hold on tight.
4. Their happiness is your happiness.
If they’re sad, you’re sad. If they’re happy, you’re happy. When someone really matters to you, you want them to feel good no matter what. They don’t have to tell you what’s wrong because you’ll know something is up, you'll know exactly how to help and vice versa. When they're the one, you will put them first in every situation and won't be looking for a "thank you" in return. You'll do it because, in that moment, it's exactly what you want to be doing.
5. They love you at your worst.
They're the one that's been there for you at your lowest - and stayed. The night you came home sick, they held your hair and told you it would be OK. When you felt your worst, they told you all of the reasons you are the best thing in their world. The times you came to them in a fighting mood, they calmed you and talked you through it. The days where you felt broken, they somehow put all of the pieces back together.
You see where this is going? There's something undeniable about this one person that you just can't find in anyone else. They're special, and it's not something you can totally explain. It's a feeling you have deep down inside that they were made just for you. And when it's right, that feeling never really goes away.
