How Dierks Bentley Is Taking A Stand For Girls Everywhere

How Dierks Bentley Is Taking A Stand For Girls Everywhere

And it's not just because he took our side in the breakup.

Whether you are a country fan or rap junkie there is no arguing that top hits are top hits. With big singles like “Come a Little Closer” and the newly adored “Somewhere on a Beach,” the name Dierks Bentley is one that has been tossed around top charts for years and likely one to have been spoken among most families in the country due to his knack for making good music. This past May, the country singer dropped a new album titled Black that is on the right track for following the successful footsteps of the artist’s other records. Critics are calling this album the best look at the emotions that make up Bentley and the way he connects to his songs.

The second track on the album is one that I specifically expect to be at the top of the leaderboards very soon. The melody titled “Different for Girls” featuring the amazing voice of alternative artist Elle King tenderly describes the ways that girls can’t handle a breakup like their boy counterparts. With lyrics that will no doubt have girls around the nation using the hashtags “preach” and “truth” and “I can’t even” it is sure to be one of the best breakup ballads of all time. I’ll go as far to say that it might even surpass some of T. Swift’s work in terms of the accuracy to which it relates to a girl’s feelings. To give you a taste of what I’m talking about, and some inspiration to give the song a listen, here are a few of the stunning lyrics:

“It's different for girls when their hearts get broke. They can't tape it back together with a whiskey and coke. They don't take someone home and act like it's nothing. They can't just switch it off every time they feel something.”

“She don't say, It's OK, I never loved him anyway. She don't scroll through her phone just looking for a Band-Aid”

“It's different for girls. Nobody said it was fair. When love disappears, they can't pretend it was never there”

“A guy gets drunk with his friends and he might hook up. Fast forward through the pain, pushing back when the tears come up, but it's different for girls”

While Dierks has not only almost perfectly pegged the college hookup culture that girls often find themselves victims of, he, in my opinion, has pointed out a far more relevant issue.

It’s different for girls.

Life is different for girls. Relationships are different for girls. Love is different for girls. Girls are different, and it is OK. In no way does Bentley mock the fragility of women. He doesn't sarcastically pity them or blame them for their tenderness. He admits with the most earnest, and honest tone there is that it’s different for girls. I think today more than ever there is such a push for girls to stop acting like girls. We often find ourselves unintentionally, and sometimes purposely, shamed for our desire to be womanly; and yes, I am somewhat looking at you feminism. It is almost a sin in this culture to be a girl and not be a feminist, but I have got to say it. The truth is, as much as we rally and campaign and advocate to be equal to men, we never will be because we aren’t. Does that mean we are beneath them? No. Does that mean we deserve less hourly pay? No. It means that we aren’t men, and that it’s OK because we are so much more than that.

We are women and I think sometimes we discriminate ourselves more so than a man ever could. I think sometimes we’re the only ones focusing on the differences between us because we’re the only ones that haven’t been able to see them as empowering. I think sometimes we forget that we weren’t made to do everything a man can, but instead to do everything he couldn't. I think we forget that men ignore and oppress us because they know all too well our power; and instead of taking hold of our abilities we sit and waste our energy arguing with them about our rights and proving that we are just as easy to distract as they envisioned. I think in pointing out all these problems we’ve admitted that we might just be a small fraction of it ourselves. I think we should embrace our differences and own them. I think we should stop trying to beat “the man” and be “the woman.”

So thank you Dierks Bentley, for reminding me that I am different and for instilling in me a new sense of pride for that difference and all of those “I thinks” from above, because I am thankful to be a girl. I’m thankful I can’t separate my emotions from my political views because it means I am empathetic. I’m thankful that sometimes I cry at the thought of war and death, even if it’s for the protection of a nation, because it means that I am compassionate. I’m thankful that I may be indecisive because it means I am considerate. I’m thankful for all of the fundamentally different characteristics that make my personality different from that of a man because I am a woman; and I am sick of gender roles and stereotypes making that a bad thing.

I am proud to be a girl, and even at my weakest I am no weaker than anyone else on this planet. We are different because we are unique. We are different because we were made for different tasks. We are different because we were designed to be the most beautiful divergence known to man. It is different for girls, because it should be and I am so glad that someone else understands.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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A Florida House Committee Is Undermining Your Vote On Amendment 4

Before felons can regain their right to vote, they must pay court fines, fees, and take care of any other "financial obligations." Essentially, this is a poll tax.


Amendment 4, also known as the Voting Rights Restoration for Felons Initiative, was added to the Constitution of Florida after being passed this last midterm election on November 6, 2018.

Amendment 4 restored the voting rights of Floridians with prior felony convictions after all terms of their sentence have been met, including parole and probation. This amendment only applies to felons who have not been convicted of murder or sexual offenses.

On January 8, 2019, an estimated 1.4 million ex-felons regained their right to vote. This is monumental. Prior to this amendment, Florida was one of four states that used felony disenfranchisement. Amendment 4 gives voice, and rightfully so, to felons who have served their time. Amendment 4 is also putting to rest, finally, years and years of disenfranchisement and suppression.

Now, only two months after its passage, the House Criminal Justice Committee is trying to water down this piece of legislation. This is a direct violation of the will of the 64% of Floridians who voted for the legislation as is. This amendment was not to be "clarified," as Governor DeSantis put it, but rather to be self-implementing.

However, the House Criminal Justice Committee proposed a bill that would tack on some extra qualifiers in order for felons to be enfranchised. The bill will require court fines, fees, and other "financial obligations" (in addition to fees administered in a judge's sentence) to be paid in full before a felon's voting rights are restored. This seems awfully similar to a poll tax to me. Obviously, this is going to affect people without a lot of resources rather than white-collar criminals who can afford a $500,000 bond.

This new qualifier will prevent felons from voting based on the money that can be coughed up as if they don't have to worry about their finances long after they leave prison.

Some may argue that these felons shouldn't have committed a crime in the first place. However, I would argue that holding a felon's vote hostage on the basis of money is unconstitutional.

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