As the famous Damon Salvatore from "Vampire Diaries" said: "Because in the end when you lose someone, every candle, every prayer is not going to make up for the fact that the only thing you have left is a hole in your life where that someone that you cared about was suppose to be".
The word "losing" can come in many different forms and meanings; however, the word "losing" in my family means much more than losing a game, competition, job, etc. Growing up, death to me only happened in movies and television shows. I was young, innocent and naive when I experienced my first death in my family. Many people nowadays have experienced death more frequently rather than not at all. Some might ask and question how losing a loved one affects a person and a family as a whole.
Death can come in two forms. The two general types that can affect a person or family are physically and mentally.
The first form being mentally can have some people and family go into a depression thus, a person believing they cannot live another day without a family member by their side. These people would say that they can never feel the same again because of that void they feel inside their heart. This form can put a strain on a person because they will disconnect, separate and avoid others and themselves from the world which can cause these people a great disconsolate. These people will also gradually become more miserable and lonely as time will pass them by. However, when any individual experiences a type of death, it will affect a person deeply and most likely for the rest of life.
On the other hand, some people and family members are physically affected by a death rather than mentally. Being physically affected can lead these people harming their own bodies because of the pain and sorrow they feel when a loved one passes on. Most of these individuals would preferably cause their bodies to feel physical pain, to disregard the emotional pain they are feeling, and they also believe this is a strong way to accept what happened. Furthermore, individuals will also substitute the emotional pain by putting harmful substances in their bodies. For example drugs, alcohol, etc. This is a coping mechanism so they can neglect thinking of the memories of a loved one.
A death in a family can deeply affect a person or family together as a whole for a long period of time; however, instead of physically harming your body or mentally harming your mind. You have to remember that everything happens for a reason, and it was just their time to go and be in a better place. Hopefully. The last thing a person who passes on wants to see is their family, friend, partner, spouse, etc suffering in pain because of their death.
The only thing we can do now is to accept what has happened, reminisce on the memories you had with this person, stay together as a family, and remember that you will see this loved one again one day in the near future.
