How Being A Writer Taught Me To Take Criticism

How Being A Writer Taught Me To Take Criticism

I'm still always right, just now other people are too, sometimes.
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When I first starting writing, I would never show my work to anyone. I was too nervous that people would think my writing sucked, and for the most part, it was personal to me, so I wasn't sure I even wanted to hear what people thought about it. However, when I started college, I realized that this was sort of unavoidable. I'm a creative writing major and one of my long-term goals is to publish a novel, so this fear of opinions and feedback was sort of inevitable and something I had to get over.

In a writer's workshop session, the writer will read a portion of or their whole piece to the class. Then, the writer is expected to sit absolutely silently while the class goes over the aspects of their piece that they liked and the parts that need improvement. I'll admit, I can get pretty defensive, so just having to sit there and take in every bit of criticism, whether it be regarding a major plot point or the most minute grammatical error, was kind of hard. Even now at times, I find it difficult to hold back my own defensiveness during a workshopping session. That being said, I am incredibly grateful for this process, because, without it, I would never improve as a writer.

Learning to sit and really take in comments and criticism on your piece can give you a thick skin. You learn not to take things personally or sensitively and rather see them more objectively as a way to improve your own work. This lesson has not only applied to writing though, I have found it helpful throughout everything I do.

Being a writer and constantly being edited helped me to appreciate advice and comments given to me from my friends. I learned to see this less as a direct jab at who I am, but as an opportunity to improve myself. Sure, criticism isn't always what we want to hear, but when we do open our ears to it, sometimes we may find helpful truths as opposed to personal comments.

Being a writer thickened my skin and taught me that there are opinions that matter other than my own, and that it what other people have to say is always worth considering.

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2. Room decor from the Target dollar section. 

Or anything from Target, for that matter. Some college towns don't have one of these glorious establishments, and we are experiencing withdrawals.

3. School supplies. 

You can never have too many sticky notes or colored pens.

4. Mints. 

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5. A cozy blanket. 

For those cold nights spent in the library until 2 in the morning.

6. A handwritten letter. 

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7. A giant box of fruit snacks...

Definitely one of my favorite grab and go snacks.

8. ... Or candy, in general. 

Preferably, gummies. But, I won't refuse chocolate candy either.

9. Cash. 

For those late night Taco Bell runs, or just to make us feel a little bit better about ourselves.

10.  A funny movie/DVD. 

There's something so simple and serene about watching a funny movie on a DVD player that brings us back to the less stressful times of our childhood.

11.  Hot chocolate mix. 

I always get random cravings for hot chocolate, but it's never enough to make me want to go buy a box of mix.

12.  Starbucks/Dunkin Donuts gift cards. 

Because the majority of our lives revolve around coffee, and sometimes our Keurigs just don't cut it.

13.  Peanut butter crackers. 

These are so quick and easy to eat between classes (or if you're like me, IN class).

14.  Scent diffuser. 

This can be even better if you send a scent that reminds us of home.

15.  Hair ties. 

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16.  Homemade cookies/brownies. 

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20.  Lysol wipes/hand sanitizer. 

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21.  Band-aids. 

No one ever really thinks of buying these, but they work for so many more reasons than their typical use.

22.  iTunes gift card. 

For all those "educational apps" our professors tell us to buy. *wink wink*

Every college student loves getting a care package in the mail, so if you really love and miss us, please send one our way!

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