How A Black Girl Got A Frat Suspended

How A Black Girl Got A Frat Suspended

You Can't Be in The Sunken Place & in Greek Life

Imagine you're in your room on Sunday night and then BOOM you hear that one of the biggest frats on your campus is .... SUSPENDED !! What led to this suspension?

Was it just this frat? Was through nationals or just this chapter on this school?

Let's back track here and start where it all began.

Kappa Sigma is the largest college social fraternity in the world with more than 200,000 living members, including over 20,000 undergraduates and 320 chapters and colonies located throughout the United States and Canada. Fraternities at my college are sort of a big thing. Actually they're a really big thing. These guys hold the campus together. They have the parties, so if you wanna get into them, you gotta get with them.

This particular fraternity on my campus was known as a "party frat". They were brand-spanking new! Just got charted in 2016 and already had 4 houses off campus. The brothers of Kappa Sigma were loved by all ... or so they thought.

You may call her Sarah (names have been changed obviously). Born and raised in an urban city she never really experienced racism firsthand because everyone around her looked like her. Brown people just tryna make it in the world. So you can imagine her culture shock when she got to college (A PWI MAY I ADD) and noticed the subtle racist acts appear on campus.

Though she never said anything it always got under her skin and also under many of her friends who experienced the same things on campus. Obviously the were black or Hispanic because her white friends had never dealt with things like that. The stares, and the snickers and the pointing at a party because you look like how you are.

Still almost every weekend if she could she got in an uber with her friends who were white and they went to the Frat parties here & there and everywhere and she always tried to have a good time but sometimes it just wasn't for her. Again the subtle racist acts would pop up but her white friends never seemed to notice it. Too busy dancing and singing and enjoying life. She decides that she will no longer go to parties where she feels uncomfortable no matter how bored she'll be. Especially not a house that has a Trump flag, their Frat's flag & a #BlueLivesMatter flag in the living room hanging proudly.

Then came the day that would start a chain of events unforeseen on the campus.

SYLLABUS WEEK ARRIVED: Eager to start the year off right many parties occur during syllabus week or as some refer to it "sylly week" (stupid name ikr!). Of course Kappa Sigma decides to throw a party. They throw down on Tuesday. of course Sarah goes! The first party of the semester and she'll be with all her friends. Her black friends and her white friends and they always have a great time when they're together.

The frat has some of the house jumping. Sarah and her black friends feel uncomfortable with the white people saying "nigga" so comfortably in "Dreams & Nightmares" by Meek Mill. They stay probably an extra 25 minutes after that and head on back to campus. Sarah on the other hand came with her white friends so that's her ride back so she has to wait a little while longer.

Wednesday comes and her black friends spill ALL THE TEA!! (if you don't know that means then I feel bad for you). While at the party the other night an object was thrown at them they ASSUME it was thrown by 2 brothers of Kappa Sigma. It was a black purge mask. They thought nothing of it until they looked at the brothers who were smiling and pointing at them. Sarah's friends felt like they were corroborating to do something again so everyone left. The kicker in all this? One of the boys was black. It's crazy how you can look black but won't identify as it. YOU ARE BLACK !! No matter how much vineyard vines you wear or how many white girls you hook up with, you are a BLACK MALE LIVING IN AMERICA.

This struck something in Sarah, and she told herself that if anything like this cam up again she'd do something about it.


Saturday January 27,2018 the brothers of Kappa Sigma threw another party. But this time ... it was a little different and this time Sarah did something about it.

She decided that in 2018 she was no longer going to let these people whether they were WHITE OR BLACK OR MIXED OR STUCK DEEP IN THE SUNKEN PLACE think they could just get away with that !! one of my family members calls it 'House Nigga Syndrome". Back in the slave times if a slave was lighter than the others than he was thought to be better than others. It's basically color-ism and it's still going on today. That's what makes this even more disgusting! that it was a black person who told the black girls that they had to pay $35 to go into a hot, tight, little and cramped basement with THRASH MUSIC !! Mind you they were charging minorities all night but the Hispanic girls had to pay only $20.

Within 20 hours of her Facebook status the fraternity was suspended and within 24 hours the black boy stuck in the sunken place was kicked out of his frat. Don't ever think your voice does not matter. as long as you have a voice and know what you want to say then people will hear you. We as Black Women are some of the most beautidul hand-crafted creatures on God's green Earth.

... Sarah is ME !

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

Check them out:

14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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Yes I'm A Sorority Girl, But Here's What I'm Not

I didn't "buy my friends"


I think there's such a negative stigma around Greek life in this world. Movies and TV have made it out to be crazy, continuous partying and full of hateful people all based on looks. I love being a part of Greek life for so many reasons. Here are some misconceptions about Greek life debunked.

1. I Didn't "Buy My Friends"


My sisters are my friends because we all share common values, likes, and dislikes. We spend every day together, live together in the house, share group chats, and have similar majors so we are always together. No amount of money could've made the bond my sisters and I have and I wish people would realize the true bond between sisters because it's magical.

2. We Really Care About Our GPA's and Grades


There's a certain GPA every Greek house requires you to meet in order to stay an active member. Plus, we always encourage study dates with other people in the house and some houses even throw study events to raise money for charities. Also, some of the top scholars known were in Greek life soooooo...

3. Philanthropyyyyyy!!


Many people think we don't do anything but socialize when really our whole existence is based on philanthropies! We spend every semester raising awareness and money for the foundations we love and we have all ended up being some of the primary monetary donors for those causes!

4. We Don't Judge Based Off Looks


It's what's on the inside that truly counts. We all have found our houses by our personalities and values, not by our looks. A house will want you if you share the same value as them and that's how you'll find your people.

5. We Also Don't Judge By The Brands You Wear


It's true that many of the girls you may see in one house might all have something similar by a certain brand altogether, but that's just what being sisters is like. it's not like you have to buy certain expensive brands or dress a certain way to "fit in." Greek life is all about being yourself!

6. I'm Not Living Off "Daddy's Money"


Most of us are on academic scholarships and have to maintain grades and a good image to keep going to our college. Not all of us were born rich, you know?

7. Partying. Nonstop Partying.


It's true with any college student that it's fun to go out every now and then, but it isn't what Greek life consists of. Greek life is supposed to be finding your forever people, your second family, and your home away from home. These are the people you will rely on on your best days and worst, you don't have to party for that to happen. Plus, believe it or not, there are certainly Greeks who don't party or choose to stay away from that lifestyle.

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